Wednesday, July 11, 2012

I Thought I'd Share

I've been having a lovely day today.  The sun is shining and it's not too hot. My pie has a broken purple crust, but that is just making me laugh at this point. I've spent my day cleaning and prepping and wracking my brain for something special for Musicman.

He is not an easy man to surprise, or even to do nice things for. While I was thinking about why that was I thought I would take this opportunity to share a bit more with you about Musicman. After all, we all know I'm just a silly girl, he is the real star of this show. At least he is for me, so don't dis allusion me, I won't appreciate it.

Musicman is a very responsible man, he does not really know how to relax. He doesn't really have hobbies or spend much time just enjoying life. He works very hard, and if left to his own devices he would never remember to stop and enjoy the fruits of his labors. He is much, much too serious. That is where I come in. I recognized this about him a long time ago, and took it upon myself to help him.

So, I have all kinds of ideas and suggestions for things we can do over the next few days. I will present all the ideas and see if any of them survive his first perusal. Some of them will not and will then be off the table. The rest will likely go in the maybe pile, further discussions will be held, negotiations completed, with each idea or suggestion. Of course the final decision is his. That's just the way it has always been with us. And I don't have any problem with that.

I enjoy the whole process of negotiating and trying to get some of my wilder ideas approved. If I can get him to do something really silly with me, well...then we all win. That rarely happens though, which has probably saved my hide more times then I care to think about. I still try though, I'll never stop trying.

I'll never stop trying because he needs me to push him, to have fun and take some pleasure in the frivolities of life. As I said, I expect there will be a lot of negotiating about different things, and I like these exchanges. It is a good exercise for us in communicating. We communicate very differently, approach almost any given situation differently. I still marvel how differently sometimes.

I enjoy his points of view, and often find myself  being grateful. I'm grateful that he sees the things I don't, he thinks about the possibilities and consequences I haven't considered. I know he is often flabbergasted with how my mind works. I don't blame him, I am too.

I don't think I've ever told him how fascinated I am with the way his mind works. During these times of negotiating my little adventures, I often find myself in awe. Awe that he can so easily see all those tiny things I don't. The tiny things that when missed are gonna be the ones I trip and fall on. The practical things that I never worry about, cause that's not fun. It's something I have come to rely on him doing for me.

I'm in awe of his own personal strength. The strength that would never let me walk all over him or push him around, and do whatever I want, just because I might want to. Even when I don't get one of my ideas past his approval, I never resent it, because I know he has a good reason for it. Usually that reason is my safety, he is not a selfish man and would never deny me anything just because he can.

I also love the energy generated during these negotiations. It is a very positive energy that develops from us working together as a team. We look at all sides of the situation, each one of us contributing our own unique insights and working together to meld them into a workable plan. I find it very satisfying, and think it really strengthens our basic foundation for dealing with life together.

I'm planning on pampering him, and pushing him, and negotiating wild adventures that if done right will lead to fun experiences and wonderful memories. I'm hoping he will relax and enjoy life some, maybe set practicality aside for just a little while. I'm hoping I can convince him to be carefree and silly with me for just a brief moment or two. I'm hoping I can bring as much joy to his life as he brings to mine.

And of course there's the birthday spanking too.








24 comments:

  1. Sounds like Musicman is your lobster.

    Adam's sisters loved Friends when they were growing up and even into adulthood so at our wedding he told the whole church I was his lobster. To me all it means is that he fills in all my personality holes and I fill in his. Where I am too serious, he is a goof. Where I panic, he calm. He always says our claws fit together perfectly.

    I like your post. Entertain Musicman to the best.

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    1. Thanks for explaining about the lobster, I was a bit confused, lol. Now that I understand it, yes he is my lobster :D

      I'll do my best to keep him amused :)

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  2. What stuck out at me in this post is this "its a very positive energy that develops from us working as team" i think thats how it should be, sure they are the dominants we look to them for guidence etc but ultimatley its team work you both have to work together.

    I hope you planning goes to plan lol and you both have fun.

    tori x

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    1. I think we make a pretty good tema, we even travel well together :D

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  3. Whatever "plan" gets his approval, I really hope the two of you get some quality, fun time together, which will provide many great memories to look back on.... and wish him a very happy birthday from all of us at Blogland!! xxxxxx

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    1. Thanks Daisy, I may go through several plans until I find one he likes, but that's half the fun :)

      I'll make sure I pass on the birthday wishes :D

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  4. Yes, happy birthday to musicman. I know you'll have a ball whatever you end up doing to treat him.

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    1. Thanks, I am looking forward to spending the time pampering him, he deserves it.

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  5. It sounds like you have big plans and will get to cover a little bit of everything! Happy birthday to your man, and I hope that pie cooperated for you :)

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    1. The pie looks as bad as they always do :( But he still eats it and raves about it :)

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  6. Hope your fun plans work out. I'm sure you will convince MM to do something fun for his birthday. Enjoy the four days.

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    1. It might take some doing, but I will think of something fun he will approve of :D

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  7. Enjoy your plans and the time off and happy birthday to Musicman.

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    1. Thanks Zoe, it should be a fun interlude.

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  8. I'm sure he loved the pie. I just new the bad days would be followed by good days. It will reverse many times, but for now, enjoy.
    I positively enjoy the energy that comes from working as a team. So rewarding.
    Now with the upcoming birthdayspanking things can only get better. Happy birthday to Musicman.

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    1. He did love the pie, even if it did look kinda awful, lol.

      Good days, bad days, such is life :)

      Spankings make everything better dontcha know :D

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  9. I too am hopeless at pie crust but I have all these blueberries and you have motivated me to make one for my guy. Will have to let you know if the crust turns blue.

    I hope your musicman relaxes and goes down some of those fun roads with you.

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    1. Good luck with the pie, if you figure out how to do it without a blue crust, please, let me know, lol.

      I may have to drag him down some of those roads, but it will be worth it if I do :)

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  10. faerie: Your love with your Musicman is beautiful. You are two soul mates and it is wonderful you found each other. I just hope you convince him to slow down at time and smell the roses.

    And have a wonderful weekend celebrating his birthday. I hope he likes your ideas. I like to envision you kneeling before him saying, "I'm yours. Take me. Do with me what you want.''

    Also, hope you will share what a good time I am sure you will have. Good luck.

    FD

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    1. Thank you FD, I do believe we are soul mates and I am gratful everyday he found me :D

      As for your vision, um...have you been peeking into my head? LOL.

      Of course I'll share, who else would I tell? hahaha.

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  11. Can't wait to hear how this all turned out. One thing for sure...you 2 were meant for each other...differences and all! abby

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  12. I love your description of him, however late to the party I may be.

    Stay SINful
    Mr. AP

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