Wednesday, May 16, 2012

The Power of a Blowjob

I read a wide variety of blogs, from vanilla to BDSM and everything in between.  I'm nosey, I like to hear about what other peoples lives are like. I check out a lot more then I read regularly. I read a lot more then I comment on. Some people are just too smart for me to have anything to add. Some peoples experiences are just so different I have no idea what to say, others are so similar I have plenty to say. The one thing that unites all the blogs I read is that I find them stimulating. They make me think. When I think I learn, when I learn I grow, when I grow I blossom.

Lately I have been stimulated to think about blowjobs. There seems to be a sad lack of them occurring for some people. So much so, that getting one is a reason for celebration. Not a bad reason to celebrate, I just think everyone should celebrate as often as possible. The world would be a much happier place if we did.

In the sub world blowjobs appear to be considered a powerful act of submission. Discussions are generated around whether to swallow and the ways to improve taste. Cumming on the face, especially when kneeling is supposed to be an ultimate act of submission. I say "supposed to be" because for me I find it it to be incredibly powerful.

I love giving blowjobs, well, to be honest, I more then love it. To begin with I find the male anatomy absolutely fascinating. I can't resist touching my husband's cock when we are laying in bed, especially in the mornings. I love to watch as I let my hands roam all over the softness of his semi flaccid cock. It never ceases to amaze me how running my hands so lightly over his balls and up that little ridge makes him just bob to life.  I could spend hours delicately tracing all the little veins up to that beautiful smooth head, circling the rim before summiting and exploring down the other side. Every little movement on my part eliciting a reaction. Almost as if it has a life of it's own growing and hardening at my touch.  I'm leading this dance and that's powerful.

Sometimes Musicman gets inpatient with my exploring and grabs my hair and pushes be down, he never has to push hard. Other times I am eager to get there on my own. I'll giggle as I tell Musicman I want to give him a kiss and slowly descend his body. I like to take my time, time to just feel him on my tongue, all the little nuances of maleness that I crave. Those veins and ridges that my hand is now so familiar with, I must taste. 

I have a bit of an oral fixation and want to explore every hard inch with my tongue and my lips to my hearts content. My hair gets caught in my hands, craddling and exploring what my mouth isn't . I let the anticipation of feeling him in my mouth build and build until heaven is achieved when I finally take him in. I always have to pause and just feel the glory that is that much power so deep in my throat. Groan!

After that initial entrance into my mouth it doesn't seem to matter who directs the show. I become obsessed with one thing and one thing only. I must have his cum.  I want to taste it, I want to wear it and I will do anything to get it.  Sometimes Musicman wants to be more aggressive and twine his hand in my hair and fuck my face. That works for me. Sometimes he wraps a hand around my throat and just sets the pace and leaves me to play a little more to my desires.  That works too. Sometimes he doesn't lay a hand on me at all, but provides an ongoing dialogue that inflames me more as I suck and lick like a starving woman.  Oooh, does that ever work.

By this point no matter what he is doing to me, it has turned into a mental wrestling match. Can I maintain the control, the focus needed to make him cum? I get a huge rush of power from his orgasm, from knowing that I can cause all that to happen.  I want that rush desperately, he likes to make me beg for it. I'll beg for it, but sometimes that is enough to push me right over the edge into oblivion myself.

I don't know if it is a sub thing. I don't know if it is the empath in me. Maybe it's just the female in me that feels the power of pleasing her man. I just know I seriously love giving blowjobs, they are to be celebrated. Let's all celebrate a little more.


43 comments:

  1. Very nicely said. My pet is of the same mindset of you when it comes to blowjobs, to the extent that denying her giving me one would be akin to a punishment. Having said that, we celebrate blowjobs on a daily basis.

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    1. Welcome Master49, I'm happy to hear you celebrate regularly. It's nice to know there are other women who appreciate it as much as I do.

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  2. Mmmm, you said it, lady. Sometimes I celebrate a little too often and it winds up giving me a sore throat. I'm okay with that though.

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    1. Yeah, That happens to me sometimes too. A cough drop or two helps :) Besides that's the kind of sore that makes me smile.

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  3. I'll call blow jobs a soft limit. I'll do it but not very often at all. 3 or 4 times maybe. I have this thing with body fluids.

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    1. Hmmm... a thing wiith body fluids would make it a bit difficult to enjoy. Good for you for giving it a try occassionally.

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  4. One of my all time favourite things to do is give a blowjob.....I just love the feeling of a cock in my mouth, either feeling it grow there, or having an already hard cock forced into my mouth.
    If there was only ever one thing that I could choose to do, sexually, I think I'd choose the blowjob :-)

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    1. Thanks for the nice comment flip. It's always nice to hear from other likeminded people :) I'm glad I don't have to choose just one thing, lol.

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  5. I agree,,here's to many more celebrations! abby
    ps...love your descriptive writing syyle!

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    1. Thanks abby, it's easy when I am writing about something I feel strongly about :) Everyone should celebrate as often as possible, I thnk anyway, lol.

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  6. I like too when I don't have a cold. DH is sitting out right now. But when I do, I can't quite make myself swallow, and he seems to be okay with it. He loves the idea of coming all over my face, but then he is too gentlemanlike to actually do it.

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    1. Head colds can definitely much up the works :(

      Swallowing is an acquired taste but I acquired it a long time ago. If you want to you can acquire it too. Gentlemanly doesn't have much place in our bedroom, but we have been together a lot longer then you guys have been. I will warn you though if you ever encourage him to do it on your face, don't get it anywhere near your eyes. It stings, bad.

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  7. Faerie, I know Spanky of Bright Bottoms will like your post. He advocates BJ's a lot. I learned about Steak and BJ day from his blog. This last Sat. he even advocated a tip on his post concerning BJ's-LOL. Anyway, I agree they are a powerful connection with the man I love.

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    1. I'm glad you liked the post. Steak and BJ day is celebrated often at our house, lol.

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  8. I enjoy giving blow jobs. To H. But he has always more than kept the "O" tally going in my favor. I know that I have not always enjoyed doing this and that is because others have not turned me on to the point of needing to feel them in my mouth. H does. All the time.

    I don't know if that is submission or his magical Italian heritage, but whatever it is, I will take an extra serving, please.

    P.S. Even when I didn't love it quite so much, I always swallowed. I figured you already had it in your mouth - why wouldn't you finish. H loves it when I keep going after he comes and is completely sensitive. I don't know if all men do, but if I didn't swallow, I would never have found the full extent of the blow job's power - making them helpless and then pushing them through it to practically incapacitated. You are right - it is powerful. :)

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    1. I never worry about the O tally, I am so easily orgasmic that Musicman has no chance of ever getting ahead of me, lol.

      I started out swallowing pretty much the same way, it was already there, might as well. But after all these years if it's been too long I crave the taste of him. Musicman doesn't tolerate a lot of after contact, the amount varies from one time to the next.

      I'm glad you understood what I meant by the power of it, I wasn't really sure I explained it all so well :)

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  9. I totally agree. Lovely post.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. I glad you liked it, thanks for stopping by :)

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  10. Ok I'm not as enthusiastic as everyone else seems to be lol! It's a definate area I need to improve upon and stop being so lazy about. I don't mind it, but I don't love it. I should initiate more, he'd like that. A lot.

    Dee x

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    1. Learn to feel the power, it's a rush and then you will want to do it more. Wish I could give specifics on how to do that, lol. Guess I would recommend practice, practice, practice.
      Mitch can thank me later. LOL :)

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  11. I'm kind of with Dee, I wish I were more enthusiastic...I am trying! That being said, my man gets one every time we're together, so whether I like the act of it or not, I do like submitting to him. I was unaware that some people only gave them on occasion or as celebration, I guess I always just assumed it was the "normal" hah!

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    1. It's always been normal for me too. That's a good thing in my opinion. Given time, I think you will learn to like it more. I find it a total rush to be able to give Musicman that kind of satisfaction, afterall, he does it for me, over and over and over again, lol.

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  12. I'm totally with you on this one faeire. I love everything about it....especially when I am made to beg for it with a Sir on the end, then I just want it even more. You are not alone.

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    1. It's always nice to know I'm not alone :) The begging gets me everytime.

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  13. faerie,

    I'm back from my blogging break and WOW, what a post to come back to, lol! I love it!!!

    Well, you know that absolutely adore giving Daddy cock worship...I've talked about it enough;).

    Great post!

    Love,
    Kitty

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    1. Welcome back Kitty, I'm happy you enjoyed the post :) Yes, I do know how much you enjoy cock worship. Another thing we have in common, lol.

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  14. I'm glad you made this post - I've always wondered if it was totally naughty of me to take such intense pleasure in the power to be able to make Ward's body react like that, to gift him with the pleasure painted on his face.

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    1. I have never thought of it as naughty. I don't think of the pleasure he gives me as naughty, why should this be any different? It is nice to know though that there are other women who like it as much as I do. It sometimes seems like we are a rare breed, lol.

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    2. no, not the pleasure, but knowing that I have that power over him & wielding it. Nothing naughty about giving or receiving pleasure,but thinking you have an element of control....perhaps a bit.

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    3. Now that you have clarified for me, I do suppose it isn't a very submissive thing to feel that kind of power. But, I don't think the guys will mind too much :)

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    4. Hope not - I'd be a very sad girl, lol.

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  15. You are not alone I love giving blowjobs as well. I love having Masters cock in my mouth as much as having him buried deep within. Have a great weekend.

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    1. I am happily surprised to see that I am not in the minority on this. Thanks for stopping by :)

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  16. I've often wondered myself about the correlation between subs and their love for blowjobs. I'm a bit (ok, a lot) of a cock-worshipper. I've always swallowed. and recently did a post on the first time i've had cum shot directly down my throat (bypassing tongue). I couldn't taste it and that kinda upset me a little. *LOL. Up to a couple of years ago, I thought ALL women loved it. (oops.) When I started asking my friends (girls AND guys) the general outcome was the women tried not to do it, the men wished their women would do it more often.
    [BIKSS has mentioned more than once that he feels I have a closer relationship with Roger (my pet name for his cock) than with him.]

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    1. I read that post and when you mentioned you were upset you couldn't taste it I understood that completely :) I find the same thing men want it and women don't want to do it. I have never understood that, just thought it was another odd thing about me.

      Nice to know who Roger is, I talk to Musicman's cock like it is a separate person but I've not given him a name, lol.

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    2. hey, guess i read it after all. and I did comment too. with the same question. about correlation between subs and giving bjs. And on the topic of roger, I realise I refer to it/him by name (so does BIKSS now) but i don't actually talk to it. LOL

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    3. I'm a touchy feely kinda talker, so yeah, I like talking to him, lol. Know what I mean? Bet ya do!!!!

      I have no idea if it has anything to do with being a sub, I have always loved giving BJ's, but just recently realized I was naturally submissive. Go figure!

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  17. OK so I am sooooo late to this post, but I just read it and had to comment (btw this is my first comment on your blog and how appropriate it would be about blow jobs!lol John would be proud!) So I talk and "talk" to John's cock, but it also talks to me...it calls to me! (ok so I'm not crazy, but it does have a certain draw to it). John always laughs and just shakes his head...I think he still (after 20 yrs together)can't believe I really love it so much! Anyway...sorry for the novel...couldn't help myself after finding such like-minded people :)

    P

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  18. The Power of a Blowjob
    I read a wide variety of blogs, from vanilla to BDSM and everything in between. I'm nosey, I like to hear about what other peoples lives are like. I check out a lot more then I read regularly. I read a lot more then I comment on....
    i think someting different . . .
    if know more then click

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