Wednesday, May 30, 2012

I'm a Lucky Girl!

I survived my first day of work. It was kinda strange after being out of work for so long. The environment is definitely different then what I am used too. I have only met a very few of my co-workers so far, and they are proving to be interesting already.

What do you say to a young woman, younger then my daughter, who unsolicited, shares that she was a virgin until she was 19 and also got pregnant when she was 19? What do you say to the single mom who has a son the same age as my son who shares that she is barely making ends meet?  Her "old man", is in prison and she doesn't make enough money to pay her rent every month. I don't remember what I said, probably some professionally, socially acceptable drivel. I do remember what I was thinking however. I was thinking what a lucky girl I am.

My most favorite time of day is when Musicman gets home from work. We do not have cell phones and do not text each other throughout the day. There is something so satisfying about the coming together at the end of the day. Talking about our day spent apart. Learning about the people we are when we are at work. Reconnecting as a couple. These times have become very precious to me over the years. That is what I mourned about last evening, I didn't want to miss out on that.

When I got home last night Musicman was waiting for me at the door. He had a cold drink waiting for me. Not only had he fed himself, but he cleaned up after too. He also finished some laundry that I hadn't quite gotten too, yet. We went up to our room and I changed into something comfy and even though it was late, we talked about our day.

I did most of the talking, he patiently listened to everything I had to say. I can be a bit scattered sometimes when I have an overload of information. That's what yesterday was, and probably the next few weeks will be like that. He will listen and give opinions or suggestions and in general help me cope with a new situation. I had so much to say that even though I asked how his day went he didn't say much about it. He was focused on me and how my day went. That is a skill not a lot of people have.

This is just one of the many reasons why I am such a lucky girl. I have someone to come home too. Someone who loves me unconditionally. Someone who appreciates the things I do. Someone who listens when I need it. Someone who picks up the slack without being asked or expectations of reward. Someone who works just as hard as I do to make our life what it is. Someone who takes of and cares for, me. Someone who is a true partner to walk through this world with. I'm a lucky girl. Tired, but lucky :)

The next few days will be a challenge for me. I haven't done this much physical activity in at least 5 years. My last job was a desk job. Yuck, I didn't like it much and am glad I won't be doing it anymore. The exercise will be good for me, but, there will be an adjustment period.  I am going to be stiff and sore and tired. I'm no spring chicken, ya know?  Thanks to Musicman though, I know a great cure for all those maladies. Wonder if he wants to administer some medicine tonight? Can you guess what he would prescribe?

33 comments:

  1. Congratulations on getting through your first day. You are a very lucky girl indeed. It's nice that you have someone to share your day with. Just reading about it made me feel lucky for what I have too. Thank you for that. I hope the rest of the week goes just as good for you.

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    1. dancingbarez, so nice to hear from you. I hope you have been well :) Between my encounter with vanilla friends over the weekend and the ladies I met at work it was very evident to me just how lucky I am. Gratitude is a good thing :)

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  2. glad to hear your first day went great. And even happier to hear that you had a good "honey I'm home" moment... sounds heavenly. Now go get your "medicine" :)

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    1. My guy is such a sweetie, he takes good care of me :) The "medicine" didn't happen, but at this point a foot massage is all I'm craving, lol.

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  3. You're a very lucky girl, indeed! Glad to hear your first day went alright.

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    1. Thanks Tess, it is going to be a good job, busy and lots of stimulation and not responsible for someone else life. I'm real good with that :)

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  4. That does sound like a pretty good day though. And yes, you are lucky to come home to such a nice man that is all yours!

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    1. Having been home for 2 years it is easy to forget how hard some people have it personally and professionally. I have been feeling very, very thankful for my man and our life together :)

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  5. I couldn't begin to guess what he might suggest. Glad you first day went well. It's a trip getting used to the information the younger generation shares with everybody who will listen.

    You are indeed a lucky girl.

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    1. You can say that again, lol. They are nice people, but not the type of people I am used to working with. It should keep things interesting, lol.

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  6. You ARE very lucky. It is great to have someone who is so in tune with you. I also believe that the people at work must have sensed your compassion and that is probably why they felt comfortable sharing so much with you. Even though it seems extreme when you don't really know them!
    Minelle

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    1. Minelle, that is sweet of you to say. I am the kind of person that inspires others to confide in me. I don't think it's anything I do, it's just a certain vibe I give off.

      My hubby and I are unusually close and in tune with each other. Well...unusual for the vanilla world, not so much for this community I think :)

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  7. Faerie: Yes, you are a very lucky girl. Surprised you don't have cell phones but nice you can come home and talk over your day with Musicman. And amazing the personal stuff they are sharing with you on the first day at work.

    FD

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    1. We have never really felt the need for cell phones. Neither of us has ever had the kind of job that really allows for cell phone use. Besides, we like having our time together at the end of the day. If we texted all day long what would we talk about at home?

      It is the empath in me that inspires people to confide in me. It has been happening pretty much all my life. I don't particularly want to know these things, but I guess they need someone to listen.

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  8. Yay! Glad your first day went well. Hope you have a good night, too.

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    1. Thanks SNP, it is going to take some adjustment to get used to working outside the home again, but it makes me appreciate my time at home even more :)

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  9. You are indeed a lucky lady! gladto hear the first day went well. ummmmm..a massage leading to....abby

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    1. LOL abby. At this point I would be good with a foot massage leading to sleep. Oh my aching feet :)

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  10. Sounds great - be wary of the oversharing first day co-workers. IMO.

    I hope he continues to care for himself so nicely and it wasn't just a first day treat - but, you have been together for a long time, so I am sure you will hit a regular rhythm soon.

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    1. Yeah, people that share that kind of initimate stuff within minutes of meeting me is a bit creepy. I am used to it though, it has been happening since I was a young teen. Supposedly that is normal for empaths to have others react that way to them.

      Musicman won't always do so good at taking care of himself, but you are right, we will get a good rhythm going pretty quick :)

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  11. faerie, that is so extraordinarily sweet! Lucky indeed! You might just enjoy that medicine :)

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    1. Oh, I will most definitely enjoy the medicine, still waiting for it though, lol. Maybe tonight, if I don't fall asleep first. I forgot how hard this working thing is, lol.

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  12. Faerie, what a great husband you have. Luck, hard work and a lot of love has made the two of you so awesome. I agree about your new co-workers. At my last interview, fot about 90% of the people there, I was old enough to be their mother. And what they talk about makes me blush.

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    1. Awww Blondie, thanks. I think we have a pretty awesome relationship, but really, who goes around saying that? I just felt the need to express my gratitude for how good I have it.

      Having changed industries, I am meeting and working with people a little "rough around the edges" as opposed to the professionals I am used too. I am sure I will be okay as I have a few rough edges myself sometimes. Having met a few more co-workers today I am gonna be firmly in the middle age group.

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  13. There is nothing like a little everyday reality to make us realize what we have and how very special it is. Your husband is obviously so supportive.

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    1. You hit the nail on the head Susie. Everyday reality is a lot different from the protected little bubble I live most of my life in. I prefer the bubble, but I guess we all have to deal with reality at some point :)

      Musicman has always been my biggest supporter, that's something I never forget to be grateful for.

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  14. You are indeed a lucky girl. Happy to hear your first day went well.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Thanks Ronnie, it's a good thing to remember how good I have it on occasion :) Thanks for stopping by.

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  15. Glad to hear it went well on the first day of the job. Yes, girls like us are indeed the lucky ones.

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    1. Having to deal with the outside world again, it was pretty evident how lucky I really am. That is probably a good thing for me to be reminded of occasionally :)

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  16. Glad your 1st day went well. Lovely post faerie :) Hope you've had your 'medicine' already :)

    Dee x

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    1. Dee!!! So nice to hear from you. How are things on your side of the world? That would be a negative on the medicine, but maybe tonight, if I don't fall asleep first, lol.

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  17. glad your first day went well at your new job...thanks for sharing your gratitude...everynight I say "thank-you's" with my children for all the things and people we are grateful for... :-)

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