I've never fit in well in the vanilla world, I just don't blend in very well at all. In fact there are times when I stick out like a sore thumb. This doesn't bother me a bit, I like being me.
Friday night is a great example. We had gone out to a local cafe to meet my brother and his wife. The place was packed, not an empty table to be had. I am a people watcher and spent time observing the people around me. One of the things I noticed immediately was that there was an almost even number of men and women, nothing unusual about that. What did seem unusual to me was I was the only woman not wearing jeans and a t-shirt.
I was wearing a long flowing black skirt and a corset style jean top. Some people may have looked at me and thought I had dressed up for the outing, but they would have been wrong. That's the way I dress most days. In fact I had worn that particular outfit all day and the plans to go out were made last minute. I love wearing skirts, sans panties of course. Musicman is not a big talker, but he is a tactile man. He is always touching me. I like that, so why wouldn't I encourage that behaviour?
I also noticed that I was the only woman with hair past my shoulders. My hair is well below mid-back and is naturally curly which gives it a bit of a wild appearance. My mother is fond of telling me I need to cut it because hair that long on a woman my age is not the social norm. I don't have a problem telling her or anyone else that I don't care what the societal norms are. Musicman likes it long, so I wear it long.
When I start my new job I will be working in a department of predominantly women. This is nothing new for me as most of my jobs have been that way. I will have to conform to a dress code, so physically I won't stick out at all. No, the differences there will be noticeable in the content of the conversations.
Invariably when you get a group of women together the conversation will turn to their men and sex. I have no problems discussing sex with people. It has however been my experience that my views are not the views of most women.
Most women are very quick to deride and belittle the men in their lives. Most women complain about sex and the fact that the men want it and they don't. Clearly this is not my view on the subject and I am not afraid to share my view when asked. Honesty is a good policy, but in this case it is a policy that is going to make me stand out among the crowd. That's okay, I've never really wanted to be one of the crowd anyway.