Lack of privacy has been a huge, ongoing issue for us. There was a time, before the kids moved back in, when we were averaging a spanking every other day. That was about perfect for me. I was a very happy and satisfied faerie. I also believe that Musicman was much happier during that time too. Then the kids returned and spankings went from every other day, to when ever we could grab some privacy. If we noticed we were home alone we would lose no time heading to the bedroom and getting in some quality play time. It wasn't ideal, but it was doable and we still played about twice a week.
Then life happened. I was stressed and grief stricken and not much in the mood to play very often. I slowly started pulling out of my grief, just to find that a situation that Musicman found extremely stressful had befallen us. I wanted to play, but he didn't.
He no longer took advantage of those surprise moments when we were alone. He restricted spanking to the times when our daughter and her little family were gone for the weekend and our son was at work. At first, those times occurred about every other weekend, then slowly dwindled to about once a month. I was no longer a happy and satisfied faerie, but I understood what he was dealing with and tried not to put to much pressure on him.
The situation he has been dealing with has finally, after months of trying different things, been resolved. I began to once again think about taking advantage of those stolen moments. I missed them and once a month was no longer acceptable to me. I just needed to convince him that it is okay to actually lock the doors and have some fun without worrying about when the kids might come home.
My daughter sorta forced my hand on that one. She informed us that they would no longer be going away for the weekends as they had been doing. Well damn, I had been counting on those weekends like they were gold and now they are gone. I quite unhappily informed Musicman about it and really did think I might never be spanked again.
I was so happily surprised when Friday came along and we found ourselves home alone for a short period of time. Musicman was quick to lock the doors and take paddle in hand. It was a good thing he was quick, cause with it being so long in between spankings my mind always begins to wonder if that is really what I want. I worry that maybe it won't work, it won't take me to that wonderful place I love so much. That cloud of submission that evolves into subspace that I miss so terribly.
Of course my worries were for naught, it worked quite well. He got "his little faerie" back and I got so much more. I've made sure to mention several times how much I have missed our playtimes and that we need to start locking the door and taking advantage of stolen moments more often.
His response was to make mention of needing to gag me and use the coat hanger. Oh, yes please. Unfortunately, it didn't happen last night as he had planned. Totally his fault, he fell asleep before the movie we were watching even hit the middle. He didn't miss much as it wasn't a very good movie.
That gave me plenty of time to fantasize about his remark. It's stuck in my head, pulling me deeper and deeper into the scenario until it just won't stop. Maybe, since he now seems amenable to taking full advantage of the moments we do get, and working around our lack of privacy, we will have the chance soon to play out that scenario he planted in my head.
My husband is very reticent about grabbing those opportunities for fear of interruption, I think he is gradually realising we're missing out. Hope you have those moments again soon.
ReplyDeleteSame here, he doesn't want the kids to come home and hear us. Unfortunately, if we don't learn to grab those moments we will never have a playtime. That's just NOT acceptable.
DeleteGlad MM situation has resolved. Sorry about the news of no more "free" weekends but glad you had fun. Here's hopin it continues.
ReplyDeleteThings are much better now that the situation is resolved, no more super stressed Musicman, yay. I was so bummed that we won't have anymore free weekends, guess we'll just have to think of some other way to have private time.
DeleteFaerie, this sort of sounds like it is as busy as in a hotel in your place now. I can easily imagine that this lack of privacy is so difficult to deal with. I am happy though, that one of the issues Musicman had, is resolved and that he somehow also sees how important and necessary it is to get these precious moments. His idea with the gag sounds lovely to me. And locking the doors to ensure that no-one disturbs sounds like a plan to me. I mean, everybody in your family should understand that you also have this right, even more so, if this is your place.
ReplyDeleteLacking these precious moments for too long a time is like starving slowly, in my opinion. This is even worse if you have all that you need right in front of you and find no way to get it, to satisfy your real needs. I absolutely do hope that you and MM get your time together back, hey, and don’t forget to give him the gag, then. :)
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Nina
Yep, it often feels like a hotel and I feel like the unpaid maid, ugh. It took awhile, but all the hard work we put into finding a resolution for that particular issue has finally paid off. I am about ready to very bluntly tell our kids they need to get our for a few hours cause we need the privacy. They are adults, they should respect the fact that this is our home and we are entitled to some privacy. Musicman would most likely be mortified if I did that, but that may not stop me, lol. I'm tired of slowly starving and my appetite just seems to be getting bigger.
DeleteHere's hoping you get many more of those special moments...
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I'm plotting ways to make them happen. Is that bad of me? Oh well, I never claimed to be a good girl ;)
DeleteBad???..i think it is genius of you.......nothing wrong with giving faith a nudge.
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Hey Faerie...so happy to hear that MM's situation has been resolved. Sorry your play time has been so restricted...adult children can be more intrusive than young ones! LOL Hope you two can soon play out your scenario plus others that you both might think of!
ReplyDeleteSending lots of positive energy your way.
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Cat
Adult children are definitely more intrusive then young children, especially when they keep schedules that are at odds with ours. I'm always thinking of new ways to achieve privacy and scenario's to try.
DeleteHi Faerie, so glad to hear the issue Musicman has been dealing with has been resolved. Sorry thr the opportunity for plsytime is restricted but it's great he is seeing the need to grab those opportunities when they arrise. I hope you find opportunities to play agsin soon.
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Roz
Things are so much better now that he isn't distracted by this issue. Now if we could just get some much needed privacy on a more regular basis then I would feel better too.
DeleteHere is to more stolen moments... Hugs
ReplyDeleteThanks Terps, we haven't had many chances lately, but I'm always watching for them.
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