Friday, December 7, 2012

Women

I'm a woman. I love being a woman. The only thing about men I envy is their ability to pee standing up. It seems so much easier: unzip, flip it out, pee, shake, tuck, your done. What's not to envy about that? So much easier then trying to manage layers of underclothing and hover at the same time.

Being a woman has it's downsides. Monthly menstrual cycles, migraines and debilitating cramps come to mind. Flying hormones, racing thoughts and the need to care for every one in my atmosphere come to mind. Yet, I wouldn't give up being a woman for anything in this world. After all, the fact that I can have multiple orgasms is nothing to sneeze at. We'll talk about subspace later.

Women confound me, I just don't understand them. I have spent my entire career surrounded by women. They disgust me. They bitch. They whine. They moan. I don't understand this. What is the point of wasting your energy doing those things? Why is the energy not focused on finding a solution to the problem?

These women are bitter, they spew negative energy in waves. They are painful to be around and make me ashamed to be a woman.  I spend all my energies trying to protect myself from them. Though I'm forced to work with them, I interact with them as little as possible. I bury myself in my work and get through the day by keeping busy. They criticize me for that. I ignore them.

I also observe, and I've  noticed one thing over the years about these women. These women don't have a strong partner in their lives. Someone they can connect with, someone who builds them up and gives them the strength to face the day. Someone who feeds her soul.

It's not about equality. I don't want to be a man. I don't want to do it all, by myself. I want the partner that will shore up my weaknesses. I want the partner that fills my needs. I want the partner that covers all my flaws, has my back. I want a partner that gives and takes, because sometimes I need to be taken.

For that partner, I will shore up his weaknesses. For that partner, I will fill his needs. I will cover all his flaws, I will have his back, For that partner, I will give and take, whatever he needs.


I'm so grateful that after a long day spent with women, I have a strong partner to come home to.


A quick update: My computers dead, my back is in spasms and I miss talking with ya'll so much. You aren't like these women that piss me off. You get it, and I appreciate that. We're still working on it, hopefully soon we will have some good luck with it.

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  1. Hope the back and computer are both in good working order again soon.
    Back spasms are such a bitch...You shouldn't have to work with them all day only to come home and deal with one!

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    1. Thanks lil, we're working on the computer...well..Musicman is. As for my back, it will settle down when I quit torturing it by sitting in this chair. I'm usually better at handling the bitches at work, but they really got to me bad yesterday. I vented for hours to Musicman before I wrote this post, if I hadn't it would have been really ugly, lol :)

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  2. Like Lil, I hope the back and the computer are in good order soon.

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    1. Thanks Sunnygirl, we're still working on it :)

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  3. While reading this I almost feel as if you work in my department. Oh we all vent to each other about kids, husbands, finances etc.But there are those women who constantly complain about everything and aren't very good at listening to others, nor do they have anything positive to say. I agree it is very draining and hearing them I get the impression sometimes that relationships at home aren't very strong.Sometimes I feel sorry for them and sometimes I just want pull my hair out and scream, but I usually leave the room if I can and roll my eyes and shake my head.

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    1. I've worked more then one place, but always with women. The women I described seem to be found everywhere. Unfortunately, I can't walk out of the room. Instead I do my best to restrain myself from grabbing them by the throat and banging their heads against a wall until they SHUT UP ALREADY!!!! I'm not usually as violent person, but oh do they make me sometimes wish I was.

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  4. I have nothing against venting, but I hate that constant complaining and backstabbing crud.
    I sure hope your back gets better, I have a bad back and hate when things are 'out'
    Here is hoping the computer situation gets resolved!

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    1. I have nothing against venting either, obviously, lol. This crap is way beyond venting, it's like they are miserable so they want everyone around them to be miserable too.

      Back problems suck big time. I'm happy to say that vigorous sex usually helps it. I need some therapy, lol :)

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  5. I totally get it. My sense is that you're pretty sensitive to the energy of those around you, so those types of women affect your energy negatively. And your point about having a man is very timely for me right now. I've been thinking a lot about the yin and yang balance of male/female energies and how powerful they are...

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    1. As an empath I am very sensitive to others energies. I usually use Musicman as a shield, but he can't go to work with me. I also use visualization and prayer to help protect myself, it didn't work yesterday. I thik that is because I had a bad nightmare during the night. Bad enough that it woke Musicman up, nothing usually wakes him up. I guess it left me a little off and not as strong as I needed to be. I'd love to read your take on the male/female energies, it's something I think a lot about too.

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  6. I hope your back gets better soon sweetie. and i KNOW the type of women you're talking about. I just mentioned the other day to BIKSS that I couldn't care less giving up the people around me sometimes, knowing that there is so much support and friendship to be had in blogland. but sadly, that's not going to happen...

    i can't exist merely in front of a laptop... or can i?

    Speaking of... hope your 'puter gets better soon too :)

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    1. Are ya sure we can't exist merely in front of the laptop? Cause right now, that's where I'm happiest. Don'tcha wish ya could just smack those women and tell them to get a f**king clue? If it would work, I'd do it, lol.

      He's working on my laptop as we speak, keep your fingers crossed it works :)

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  7. Yes Faerie!!! I totally get this. I worked in offices in the past and the atmosphere could be dire some days. I worked from home then for many years and that was much better. I now work supporting women. I love them and I think they are amazing but I agree with the supporting partner idea......if you have strength behind you your insecurities seem so much easier to bear.

    Xxxxx

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    1. I'm sure not all women are like the ones I work with, look at all the great ladies here in blogland. I just wish I could find some in real life. The one very uniting theme about these women is there disdain for men, even their own husbands, it makes me sick. Good for you for being supportive of women, maybe they won't turn out like these women.

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  8. Faerie, being a man, I must be careful what I say, but I totally share your wondering about WHY.
    Why is so much energy spent on deciding whose fault it is, when a fraction of all that energy is enough to correct the problem.
    In all my working days I have never seen men really fight at work. Oh yeah, professional arguments they had a lot, but it never became personal. Afterwards they went for a drink and they were friends again.
    But the all-women secretaries room, that was something different. There were days that there was so much hostility and negative energy in that room, that it felt like walking into a concrete wall just to enter that room.
    Lisa went to an orthopaedic surgeon for her aching back. I saw x-rays of her spine and they looked terrible. That surgeon sent her to a cesar therapist (don't know if they have something like that in the US) and now she is doing special exercises twice a day.
    According to Lisa it's like going from hell to heaven.

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    1. I really need to get a job working with men, so much easier, lol. Would you be surprised to know I work for a group of orthopaedic surgeons? Unfortunately, they don't treat backs :( I've not heard of a cesar therapist, but I need to do something cause it's not the good kind of pain I'm experiencing right now.

      I usually manage the pain very well, it's just been tweaking lately cause I've been doing things to aggravate it.

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  9. I am joining the club..I know exactly what you mean. I think that is part of the reason why we get so hooked into blogging..the sense of community, the understanding....
    Hope your back and puter are both better soon!
    hugs abby

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    1. I think you're right, like minded people who have a clue what life is really about :) We're working on the dang computer, once it's better and I can use it again my back will settle down.

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  10. I hope your back feels better soon and that your computer starts to behave again. What worked wonders for my back, well, for my entire core, is Pilates. Low-impact, strengthening, and fun to do. Well, I love it anyway.
    I don't have a lot of experience with the kind of women you describe: I work in IT and most women there, and those are few and far between, have a more "masculine" outlook. But the bitching would drive me mad as well.

    Hugs, Julia

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    1. I'm glad you don't have much experience with these kind of women, they are miserable. Too bad it's considered unprofessionl to smack the crap out of them, or I'd try it, lol.

      I did yoga for years, until a knee injury and series of surgeries. I never started it back up, but I've been thinking about trying it again. I understand pilates and yoga have some similarities, I'll have to look in to it.

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  11. Yep, I hear you! Women actually for the most part DO suck. I don;t like them in general... We all need to whine and bitch sometimes, but for so many women it seems that that is all they want to do... I am so happy to be a SAHM now, my life is much better because of that. And yes, having the right partner who fits the pieces to your puzzle together really does make all the difference in ones state of being.
    I hope you are feeling better very very soon, and that computer gets repaired soon too!

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    1. Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not alone with these feelings. It's not exactly PC to say you despise your own gender, but that's been my experience. I try to look at it as just another example of how lucky I am to have the relationship I do. It's either that, or smack the crap out of them, lol :D

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  12. I work in a mostly male environment but I have heard that women in an all female environment tend not to play nice together. Don't know why that is. Men do tend to spend a lot of time talking about sports so maybe that takes up their energy.

    And as far as being a woman, I often joke that periods are a sign that God is a man. On the other hand, I think women tend to have better sex lives. Easier for them to have multiple orgasms and they have more erogenous zones than men and tend to like more foreplay. But then it's a man's world. They tend to run things and get paid more for the same jobs so I am not sure how it all balances out.

    By the way, I just googled erogenous zones and one of the things that came up was Nine Surprising Male Erogenous
    Zones from Women's Day. Nine? I guess I must be missing something.

    FD

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  13. Nine? I wonder if I know them. I'll bet I could think of nine of my favorite places on him ;D Maybe you should post them so I could compare.

    If periods are a sign that god is a man, multiple orgasms are a sign, god is a woman, lol.

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  14. Terribly sorry about the soreness, spasms, and the computer issues. I would help with them all if I could. ((hugs))

    Mrs. AP feels similarly about women as you do. She's made very few female friends because of this, and most of the ones she has made have eventually done something to ruin any chance of the friendship surviving. Financially alone she's lost upwards of $5000 over the past 4-5 years because of these supposed friends.

    I'm wonderfully happy for you that you have a partner to whom you can turn who will lift you up and help you grow. I love to hear things like that. They make my day.

    Stay SINful
    Mr. AP

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    1. I'm so happy you are feeling better :)

      The computer is dead, my time online is going to be limited for awhile until we can replace it. My back just can't handle it. I miss everyone and hope ya'll don't forget me while I'm gone.

      I've never understood women like these and I probably never will. Musicman has been a huge help to me, as I know you are to Mrs. AP. Wish we lived closer, I'd love to meet your lady :)

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  15. I am sorry that you are surrounded by negativity at work. I do hope that the women you work with find some sort of peace within themselves that they can see their own negativity and change it to positive energy. And I do hope your computer is fixed soon so you can enjoy this community of ours more and I hope your back problem is remedied soon. Sending healing energy your way... :-)

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    1. Thanks Terpsichore, things at work aren't likely to change any time soon. I just have to learn to deal with it better until I can find something better suited. I don't know what we are gonna do about the computer, but we'll figure something out :)

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    Princess x

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