Thursday, November 8, 2012

He's Lurking

Tomorrow is Love our Lurkers day. I have to work, but my post is written and ready to go. This is the second year I've participated in Love our Lurkers day. Since, like most of us, I started out as a lurker it seemed like a no brainer to participate.

There is one lurker in particular I would love too hear from, but doubt that will ever happen. That lurker is Musicman. He reads every post I write, but has never left a comment. He rarely ever comments about my writing in any form. Sometimes, days or weeks later, he may make a comment in passing that refers to a post I've written, but that's about it. The more likely scenario is that he will say nothing, but act on something I've written. That's usually how I know that he continues to read here.

When I took a break from blogging last month I thought he would be relieved. I often felt like I was shoving all this in his face. Like he wouldn't be bothered at all if I let it go. I said as much to him when he asked me about it. I was quite happily surprised to know he didn't feel that way. He actually said he liked when I shoved it in his face. And yes, I got the double entendre, as he intended.

Over the last year that I have been blogging I have encouraged him to read other blogs, but he doesn't. Sometimes when I run across a post that particularly grabs me I would email it to him. I always let him know that I've sent the email, and I assume he reads it and the post I've linked too. I don't know for sure though because he never comments on it.

Something happened just recently that lets me know he does on occasion read other blogs. I left a comment on a blog. Not so unusual, I comment as often as I can. I don't always have the time to leave a comment, especially if I'm reading on my lunch hour. Even though I knew chances of him ever seeing any of the comments I leave where slim,  I have always been respectful of him and our relationship and not said anything I thought he might disapprove of, until recently.

I recently left a comment that I knew when I was writing it, he wouldn't be pleased about if he saw it. I could have skipped it or said something different, but I didn't. I actually had the thought that if he sees this comment he would say something. The comment I left was an honest comment, I would never say something in a comment that wasn't honest, but I did sorta set him up too.

It worked, he saw the comment and mentioned it to me. He wasn't too upset about it, but he did have a point to make about it. He made his point and I understood what he had to say about it. Of course I had a point too. He listened to my point and I believe he understood, so all's well that ends well.

But now I'm left wondering about which blogs he reads. He says he just reads occasionally when a title grabs his attention. I certainly understand that, and while I'm thrilled he is reading other blogs on occasion, it also makes me a bit nervous. The man already has my head spinning with the things he comes up with, I'm not sure he needs any help.

Tomorrow is Love our Lurkers day, the day we all encourage our lurkers to come out of hiding and say Hi. I highly doubt Musicman will do that, in fact I would likely fall over in a dead faint if he ever left a comment here. But, I know he lurks here, and now I know he lurks other places as well.

 


16 comments:

  1. Those other-half lurkers are the hardest ones to get to say something, eh?

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    1. Says the lady who got her other half to write a whole post. I'm so jealous and way impressed, lol.

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  2. Since he is always surprising you, please don't fall over in a faint, you might hit your head. LOL

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    1. Yanno...with my luck that's exactly what would happen. Good thing I'm usually sitting down when I'm on the computer, lol :)

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  3. I suppose i get spun around too sometimes. I never know which ones BIKSS reads and which of my comments he sees...

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    1. I thought he wasn't reading anywhere but here. Apparently this is a recent change for him. One I'm quite happy about :)

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  4. The bossman reads my posts and on occassions will check on comments i have made, he rarely will post on my blog and thats they way i like it....because he is too blunt and i think he could offend people with his opinions! lol

    Its funny when i think of lurkers i never was one, i didnt even want to blog, he set it up and told me it would do me good....im pretty sure sometimes he regrets it.

    I think it is good though when they do read what we have written because it gives them insight, and we can never learn too much.

    x

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    1. I know what you mean about being blunt and offending people, sounds like my guy :) I sometimes remind Musicman that he has the advantage, cause he doesn't blog so I don't get to peak into his head the way he does mine.

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  5. The good thing about him reading your posts is that it is a way of communicating your needs to him.

    FD

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    1. Yes it definitely is effective in that way. Now, if I could just get him to blog so I could have some insight into his head :)

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  6. Hey you never know, he might surprise you! Cael was adamantly against my blog for quite some time -- didn't even let me talk about it. I don't know what happened, but eventually he started lurking, then commenting, and now he complains if I haven't blogged in a while. So, perhaps your Musicman will do just the same. If not, at least you know he's lurking :)

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    1. He often surprises me, so you hit that one right on the head. At first he never mentioned the blog and seemed uncomfortable when I did, but that is getting better, so maybe someday :)

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  7. He's keeping you on your toes - huh? The trick is - does calling him out make him less likely to comment? Sometimes it's such a double end sward. I HOPE he defies everyone here and comments!!!

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    1. Always keeps me guessing, which is kinda amazing considering we've been together forever and a day :) Calling him out won't motivate him one way or the other, he does what he wants when he wants. He made that clear too me from day one. Can we say natural Dominant? LOL :)

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    1. Thanks Saoirse, I'm so happy that sometimes you delurk and comment, I always enjoy hearing from you :)

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