Tuesday, March 4, 2014

What's in Your Bag?

I believe we all carry baggage into our relationships. Baggage that contains both positive and negative things. Hopefully, we learn to unpack and deal with that baggage together, in a healthy way.

I've talked from time to time about some of the negative baggage that I carry with me. I've talked about how he has helped me to unpack and discard so many of the things that do not serve me well. What I haven't talked about is the baggage he carries. I don't believe that this is the place to do that. He hasn't chosen to participate(beyond reading) in this blog and he hasn't chosen to share with anyone the painful things he carries in his baggage. That is his prerogative and I respect that.

But, we are currently dealing with some of his baggage and it makes it very hard for me to come here and write anything. It is consuming him and effecting every area of our lives. I believe that it is a large part of why I am having the problems with intimacy that are occurring.

I am doing my best to try and help him through this very trying time, but it is slow going. I have backed way off in expecting much interaction from him, he's just not capable of that right now. I am trying to provide for him the things that will make his life a bit more comfortable and enjoyable, but I fear I am failing miserably.

I know, with time, love and patience, we will get through this. I just fear the damage being done to both of us while we try to get to the other side.

Okay, enough about that, cause I am already struggling not to devolve into tears over an incident that occurred this morning and thinking about it and writing about it is just serving to drag me down even further.

It has come to my attention that March is question and answer month. I'm game, maybe it will help me to refocus and find the strength needed to get through our current situation. So if anyone has any questions, not there is much you don't already know about me, feel free to ask.


16 comments:

  1. No questions, just positive thoughts and hope that MM finds answers to his questions.

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    1. Thanks Sunnygirl, I hope he finds them soon too, It's lonely without him.

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  2. First, I'm really sorry that you're struggling. That's such a painful process when you can't be a united front. Hugs and positive energies!!!

    Questions:
    Where did faerie come from and where do you find all of your pics?

    What's your all time favorite faerie pic?

    What's your favorite junk food?

    What's your favorite toy?

    What's your happiest memory if springtime with your Master?

    Ok... Last... What's something you haven't done (sexually or kink-wise) that you would like to?

    Hugs,
    Fiona

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    1. Thanks for the questions Fiona, they should be fun to answer and maybe distract me from the current issues. Seems like way to many issues in my life lately.

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  3. Fiona always has a list of questions....hugs...
    abby

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    1. It should be fun answering the questions and give me something a bit more positive to write about.

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  4. No questions...love listening to whatever you have to say and share. sorry life is a struggle and hope your man finds resolution to all that he is challenged with at the moment and that you can both find your way through together connected in the end. Sending lots of hugs your way.

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    1. Thanks Terpsichore, we will get through this, I know we will, I'm just so lonely without that connection.

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  5. I'm so sorry, it's really hard watching someone you love struggle, especially when there's not much you can really do to help. It sounds like you are already doing everything you can, so in the interest of keeping your mind occupied, here are my questions. What do you do to treat yourself? What's your preferred form of hair removal? If you had to choose between winning a billion dollars or never aging which would you take?
    Hang in there :-)

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    1. It breaks my heart to see him struggling so much and not be able to help him. Thanks for the questions, I'm looking forward to having something light and fun to write about.

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  6. Hey Faerie...I'm so sorry that you and MM is going through such a rough time. Can't think of any questions right now...you have some good ones that I will be interested in seeing the answers.

    Sending lots of prayers and positive energy.

    Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Thanks Cat, the questions should be a lot of fun to answer. Goodness knows I could use some fun in my life at the moment.

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  7. Hi Faerie, :) Sorry that things are tough for you two right now. Thinking of you and sending you warm thoughts and hopes that Musicman can work through these things swiftly, so that you can both be feeling much better asap.

    You have some great questions. What kinds of music do you and Musicman like to listen to? Any particular artists that you prefer?

    Feel good. Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Thanks Katie, I hope he does too, I miss him, even though physically he is here, mentally and emotionally he really isn't. Thanks for the questions, I am going to enjoy answering all the questions, certainly more fun to write about then the current state of affairs here.

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  8. Oh so much is in my bag I am sure of it!

    What is your best quality as a submissive? sexual or not....

    XOXO Pearl

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  9. I have a little less than I used to, but still have way too much :) Great question, I'm gonna have to give that some thought.

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