Saturday, March 8, 2014

River Wild asked, I Answer

I am so enjoying question and answer month. Thank you to all who have asked questions. Not only does it help me in writing a bit more, which is pretty much a good thing for me, but it also gives me reason to revisit some of my most cherished memories. I am the type of person that highly values experiences and the memories made through those experiences. Having a good reason to reminisce and share those memories is priceless.

River Wild, such a great name, asked the following:

What do you do to treat yourself? This was not an easy question for me. In order to figure it out, I basically worked backwards. By that I mean, I started with the typical things and ruled them out. You see, I am not like a lot of women(I'll bet some of you can identify with that). I don't like shoes and only wear them if absolutely necessary, so I own less than a dozen pair. That number includes work shoes and snow boots. I only carry a purse to work, I own exactly 2, they are both small and cost less than $10.00 each. I've never had a professional manicure, pedicure or massage. I don't fuss with my hair much and haven't been to a salon in years. I like jewelry, but I tend to be attracted to unique, instead of pricey. One of my most prized pieces is a one of a kind pendant that Musicman picked out and bought for me for our 25th anniversary. It was on a visit to a lovely little gallery we frequent on our day trips. The price was almost negligible, but it's one of my most prized items, I never take it off. In fact, I have a habit of playing with it and touching it frequently, that act alone can bring back the wonderful memories of the day spent together.

Really, I'm just a simple girl, who doesn't require a whole bunch of things. I prefer having experiences and acquiring memories instead of acquiring things. That having been said, I always love a good book. I read many different genres and will readily give a book away, but am incapable of throwing one away. Any day spent reading is a good day.

I also have a passion for animated movies. I'm old enough to have experienced Fantasia, as a child, in the movie theater. I still remember that experience like it was yesterday. It is probably my all time favorite movie. Musicman is quite indulgent of my love of animation and always rents me the newest movies when they come out. I raved for days after seeing Epic. I found it so visually stunning and stimulating that I watched it twice in a 24 hour period. Easily my second favorite movie.
 If you haven't seen it, I highly recommend it.

What's your preferred form of hair removal? Ew, I hate all forms of hair removal. I do it, but I really hate it. I've tried waxing, that just plain hurts, and not in a good way. I've tried depilatories. Ooohh, the rashes I experienced after, made that a no go. I've researched sugaring, but have yet to try it. It sounds like a lot of work, especially since I have so much area to cover. I have very long legs and do the lady bits, as well as the underarms. Some day I would love to have one of the new at home laser style gadgets that are becoming so popular right now. I have looked into them, but they are still quite pricey. So, in the mean time, I resort to the razor.

If you had to choose between winning a billion dollars or never aging which would you take? I love this question. The only problem is that, instinctually, I would choose neither. To me money is a necessary evil. If I could figure out how to live my life without it, I would. I grew up in an upper middle class home. We had everything we needed and most of wanted, except safety and love. Abuse of all kinds was rife within the home. It was a place I was always on guard and spent most of my formative years planning my escape from. I did escape, I did survive and I have always realized that money can make your life a bit easier, but it can never make you happy. I deal very little with the financial matters of our life. I'm more than capable of doing it, I just don't want to. I earn a paycheck, but I never really see it. Musicman controls all the money and that's the way I like it.

One would think that would make me pick never aging, but I wouldn't want that either. I've spent almost 35 years building a career based on caring for the elderly. The blurb at the top of my blog is a fact. A wise old woman did once teach me about the importance of making memories. I was fortunate enough to be able to share hers every evening as I readied her for bed. I love old  people. I seek the wisdom, garnered through experience, that they have to share.

I will never forget something Musicman's Grandmother shared with me. She lived to her mid 80's and was healthy almost to the end, she passed peacefully, at home, with her family around her.  She told me how she was ready to die. She told me how lonely it was having lost her husband, her parents, her siblings. Yes, she had her children and grandchildren, but all her peers were gone. She had become lonely, she was ready to move on. I understand this and am not afraid of dying. My only concern is that I not lose Musicman. I say a prayer every night, I pray that I die the day before he does so I don't have to live a day without him.

So, if push came to shove, I would choose a billion dollars and give it away. I'm sure I would have no trouble finding deserving people to give it too.

18 comments:

  1. I loved reading all your answers....the last one really touched me.
    hugs abby

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    1. Thanks abby, Musicman's Grandmother was a wonderful women. I admired her and count myself fortunate to have had her in my life.

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  2. Great questions and real heartfelt answers.

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    1. They were great questions and I really enjoyed answering them :)

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  3. There is much wisdom available to us if we surround ourselves with those who live long enough to earn it! Blessings to you and yours,
    Bella

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    1. Thank you Bella Moone. I have spent many years caring for the elderly and have always enjoyed listening to the stories of their lives.

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  4. Hi Faerie,
    I love your answers and am truly amazed that they are almost the exact same as mine. I wax though :-) Thank you for the insightful answers and the chance to get to know you better!

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    1. It's nice to be able to see the similarities between ourselves and others, isn't it? I tend to be a bit of an odd duck and rarely find women like myself within my real life. I think finding women similar to myself is one of the draws to blogland for me.

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  5. Loved your answers Faerie! Hope everything is going better for MM. Still sending prayers and positive energy for both of you.

    Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Thanks Cat, Things here are still one step forward, several steps back. We continue to work hard to find a solution. Though so much of this issue is in his hands and that has become quite frustrating for me. I may be submissive, but this just plain feels like I'm helpless and that doesn't sit well with me.

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  6. Great answers. P and I are bare footers, my shoe collection small.
    Western societies put so much emphasis on money and youthfulness, those who live a simple life with much wisdom are often ignored.

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    1. I am the barefoot diva here, Musicman never goes barefoot, he even wears water shoes in our pool. I agree, western society puts way to much emphasis on valuing and acquiring things instead of the people and relationships in their lives. I'm just not good at that.

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  7. Thanks for sharing!

    I think I might be a little different from you, lol, but I appreciate you just the same!

    I love shoes and bags; I will never own enough. I like getting my hair and toes done (I do my own toes). And I would choose to live forever, only if Master and my best friend could too (I have to have both). One life is not enough time for me to learn and experience all I want to.

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    1. It's a wonderful thing when we can appreciate and celebrate our differences :) I don't think one life is enough time either, but I believe I have had and will have more than one life, I also believe that no matter which life it is, Musicman and I will always find each other.

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  8. wonderful answers to great questions. :-) You still own more shoes than me. :-) Your last sentiment was beautiful. Thank-you for sharing :-) Hugs

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    1. I wasn't thrilled when I had to acquire new shoes for work. They aren't anything special, but they aren't the style I would choose to wear either. Musicman's Grandmother was a wonderful woman, I loved her so much and am so honored that she shared her life with me.

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  9. I enjoyed reading your answers Faerie. :) I also loved what you said about not wanting to live a day without Musicman. I've said the same kind of thing to Rob- that I hope that someday I go before him because I can't imagine being without him. I also love when you said, "I also believe that no matter which life it is, Musicman and I will always find each other." Beautiful!

    Hope that things are going a bit better for you both at present. Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. I've been totally alone in this world before, I know I can do it again if I must, but I hope that never happens. I feel Musicman is my reward for having survived the difficult times and I can't conceive of a life without him. I really do believe we are meant to be together, no matter what happens to us on this wild ride we call life, we have each other.

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