Thursday, March 13, 2014

PK asked, I answer and Something Extra


PK asked a question that set me all a tingle and quite frankly made me a bit nervous.

She asked: Would you two ever consider attending a spanking party that people host at different locations around the country?  My reaction on reading this question was, Oh yeah! I haven't said much about it before, but I definitely have a bit of an exhibitionist in me. The idea of some one actually watching us play is a turn on for me. I wouldn't want it to be too large of a crowd, but a few would be okay. At least in theory, in my mind, it is a turn on. In real life, I 'm not so sure I could actually do it.

I do admit to greatly enjoying the fact that I can turn heads just by walking into a room and usually stand out in a crowd. This is not because I am a super model look alike, I'm definitely not, though I am tall for a lady, which helps some. I also have a habit of dressing a little differently than most women. It is not unusual for me to be the only woman at a gathering wearing a skirt, that alone makes me stand out. All that aside, I think the real reason people notice me is because I carry myself with a certain confidence that is hard to ignore. I don't really know where that comes from, it has always just been a part of who I am. More than once I have been accused of being too confident and intimidating. I ignore those people, just because they are insecure does not mean I should hide my light under a barrel to make them feel more comfortable.

Musicman however, is a totally different story. He would never even consider attending something like a spanking party. He is an extremely antisocial man. Or, as he puts it, he just doesn't like people. Getting him to attend any kind of party, can be like pulling teeth.

Also, he is a very possessive man. He does not at all like the fact that people notice me when we are out. It is something that used to cause problems for us way back at the beginning. Now, I have learned to tone it down some, not too much, but enough to not cause him to become upset. Believe me when I say, he lets me know if I am coming close to crossing the line.

This is not a question, but, our friend Terpsichore has been doing a lovely series about gratitude. She worked her way through the alphabet and those posts never failed to put a smile on my face and remind me all that I have to be grateful for. I was a bit worried when she got to the end of the alphabet, because I didn't want them to end. She has presented a new twist on it and I thought I would give it a shot.

This is what she said:
Each week I am going to ask a question or suggest an activity. Feel free to play along on your own blog, in comments, in an email to me which I can share for you...or just do the activity for yourself at home. There are no rules. Just to take a moment to think of what we have to be grateful for and to enjoy that moment.
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What was the last thing you were grateful for before you went to sleep and the first thing you were grateful for when you woke up in the morning?
 
I can honestly say I don't remember what the last thing I was thinking about last night, but there is something that I have been extremely grateful for lately. That thing is our Grandbaby. She is 6 months old now and a while I don't like the lack of privacy that comes with having her and her family living with us, she is just a delight to have around, for both of us. During these last few months that Musicman has been struggling, she has never failed to put a smile on his face. Some evenings, when he seemed most stressed, I would go high jack her from her parents, so he could spend time with her. There have been plenty of times over the last few months that I have wanted to be able to provide him with some relief and just haven't known how. Her existence brings a special light to his eyes. I may not be able to do that for him right now, but I am eternally grateful that there is someone in his life that can.
 
The first thing I was grateful for this morning was, Musicman. The weather here has been dreadful most of the winter. I have been able to spend many a morning, snuggled up in the warmth of our bed while Musicman has had to get up and go to work. I am so grateful for everything he does for me, for us and our family, that has allowed me this luxury. For so many years I was the first one up and out the door to go to work. It has only been the last few years, since I gave up my full time job, that I have been able to do this. I was only able to give up my full time job and spend time at home, doing things I might enjoy doing, like sleeping in on a frigid winter day, because of him and how hard he works to provide for us. It's truly one of the best gifts he has ever given me and I don't thank him enough for that. Thank you honey, I love you so much and appreciate everything you put yourself through for me.
 
 
 

20 comments:

  1. Nick has mentioned spanking parties, not that I think he'd really want to go - but it made me think. I think I'd enjoy one if it were only with people I know here - while there might be some public spankings, most would probably still be in private. But imagine being with like minded people!

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    1. Interesting that Nick was the one to bring up spanking parties, maybe he would go. Whether private or public, I know I would enjoy it, unfortunately, Musicman would never agree to attend something like that.

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  2. What a great post :-) I used to think I would like to be in a situation where a crowd could see me getting spanked but I couldn't see them like a two sided glass. I don't think I would like to go to a party, but I think Ash would get a kick out of spanking new heinies!

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    1. Two sided glass sounds like the ideal situation, you would know you are being watched, but wouldn't have to see anyone. The idea of attending a party is quite intriguing but, for us, never gonna happen.

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  3. Hey Faerie...even if I was a spanko, I couldn't see myself willing being spanked at a party like that!

    So happy that you have your grandbaby and that she is able to pull MM a bit out of his funk. Grands do have a way of putting a smile on your face don't they.

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Different strokes for different folks, eh? That is the great thing about this community, we celebrate differences instead of disparaging them.

      Having the grandbaby around is great, I just wish she lived next door instead of down the hall. That would be ideal.

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  4. What a lovely post, Faerie. Have to smile a little about your Musicman though as certain things you say ring many bells. Can so identify with 'grandbabies'. Our latest is six months as well, and Dan just loves to be silly and make him smile his big gappy grin. Lightens the world.

    Hugs
    Ami

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    1. Isn't it funny how we read other blogs and can see ourselves or our partners in the writing. It is nice to watch Musicman with the baby and to see him smile and relax if even for just a few moments.

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  5. Hi Faerie, I'm sorry I have missed several posts. I have gotten way behind in blogland and now trying to catch up.

    This is so lovely. I'm glad you have your grandbaby and that she is able to help Musicman de-stress and make him smile.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. No worries Roz, sometimes life gets in the way, whether we like it or not.

      In a year of many negatives, the birth of our grandchild was most definitely something to look forward to. Having her around to cuddle and play with is very uplifting.

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  6. I haven't been to a spanking party but I have attended kink parties. They can be fun. I am typically anti social but the exhibitionist in me loves an audience.

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    1. I would love to attend one, at least once. It would definitely be a whole new experience for us.

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  7. Hi Faerie, :) I enjoyed reading your answers. Aww- babies sure do bring joy. Glad that it helped Musicman to feel better! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Thanks Katie, our grandbaby has often been the light in an otherwise difficult time for us. Of course, I'm a bit biased, but I think she is absolutely adorable.

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  8. *claps* reading that last paragraph sure did put a smile on my face!

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    1. I'm glad I could make you smile. Things have been so difficult lately, but I need to remember and be grateful for the good things I do have in my life.

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  9. I am so glad that grandbaby is bringing such joy and light in both your lives. :-) And waking up to be grateful for your musicman and your love for one another is lovely. :-) The idea of a "spanking party" intrigues me but I know I nor hubby would probably never feel comfortable enough to attend one - perhaps a party of spanking friends to get together and meet...that is something I could see... :-) Hugs to you.

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    1. Wouldn't that be fun to have a blogger party, where we all could meet? That would be so much fun. While the idea of attending a spanking or kink party sounds fun, I doubt that is actually anything we would ever do.

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