I mentioned in yesterday's post that Musicman threatened to spank me Saturday. We had been having words at the time, sharp words. That definitely got my attention. Not because I am in any way worried about him punishing me. But because it seemed like he was intimating he was going to do that, punish me.
Not such an unusual thing in a DD relationship, but we don't have that. I have never mentioned wanting that to him. I doubt he even knows what it means. He is the one that said right from the very beginning that he did not want to micromanage me or give me rules.
I've also said before that I don't need a reason for him to spank me. I don't see getting spanked as a negative thing and have never really considered it as a form of discipline. I've also never really thought all that much about him really disciplining me. I know what my responsibilities are and don't have many problems meeting them.
I do think he prefers to have some kind of reason to spank me, but I don't see that as my issue. If he wants a reason, he is free to find one, or make one up, or whatever he wants to do. But, this is the second time he has threatened to spank me when we where having words.
So, that makes me wonder, does he want DD? I suppose I could ask him. Right after I explain it to him, that is. But, it might be more interesting to just wait and see what happens. For one thing, we don't really argue, disagree or have words all that often. So it may be awhile before the situation comes up again.
Also, when he has done it, he has always phrased it in the form of a question. Maybe he thinks he is a contestant on Jeopardy and that is required, who knows. But realistically, that is not a question I am ever going to answer, so he may as well quit asking it.
I mean really, who answers a question like that? Does he really, in that moment, think I am going to give him an answer? I haven't yet. When he has pushed the issue, the most I have done is not disagree with him. That isn't exactly agreeing, but it is the most he is gonna get.
So in essence, I guess if it ever does happen, it is just gonna happen. If that is really the way he is feeling at that moment, then instead of asking, he should just do it. I think, at some point, given the fact that his dominance is coming to the foreground more, it will eventually happen. It wasn't this time, it may not be next time, or the time after that. But, at some point, I think it will happen. I guess when it does, that's when I will explain DD to him, unless of course he asks first.