Monday, June 25, 2012

Retail Therapy

Nothing much happened this weekend, too many teenagers around. Doesn't mean we didn't have some mind blowing sex, we did, but that's normal for us. However, no spanking occurred, but the dominance was in evidence. That's fun, and needed too.

I'm having a retail therapy type day. I went to my favorite consignment shop and found several things, including a white jean mini skirt that showcases my butt to nice advantage. I think Musicman will really like it. Hmmm....maybe it will get me that spanking I needed yesterday but had no privacy to obtain. Bonus, it's 3 sizes smaller then I was wearing this time last year.

Along the lines of retail therapy is one of the tasks that Musicman gave me which I have yet to address. In addition to a wish list of things I would like to try, he suggested we get some toys. Seems easy enough right? Well...not really.

We don't have the greatest history with the use of toys. Years ago we had a vibrator. It didn't get much use and I don't know when it went missing, but we have never been inspired to replace it. I also have a set of Ben Wa balls. They are very pretty, all gold and shiny. They currently live in one of Musicman's dresser drawers. I tried them several times with little to no effect. After getting one stuck and worrying for hours if I would end up in the ER getting it fished out, we put them away. A huge disappointment if you ask me.

I suggested we go over the border to the next state as they have a big adult toy sore we could visit. It's not too far and would be an easy drive.  Musicman didn't like that idea. He prefers we shop online for our toys. I'm a bit leery of that as I have a history of picking not so reputable companies. I have been scammed a few times. So embarrassing!!!

Instead of just Googling toys, I remembered that I had read on other blogs about edenfantasys. So I checked it out. For a newbie like me it was a bit overwhelming. So much to choose from, and I want to try it all. I signed up for the newsletter figuring if I got frequent updates it would remind me to tell Musicman about it.

As it turns out I didn't need to tell him about it. Last Sunday, prior to our firefly hunting adventure he had me get my laptop so we could look at toys. I went to the edenfantasys website. We looked at and discussed several things. I did add several things to a wishlist  to look at again later, but we made no firm decisions.

He gave me the task of picking something, but I don't know what I want. He talked about maybe getting a ball gag, due to my lack of volume control. I will admit that even though I know I have no volume control I never considered trying a gag, until I read this post by Jake. It featured this gag which totally intrigued me.  

Obviously this is not a beginner gag, though edenfantasys does have one just like it. This didn't make the wishlist, a scarf or some such thing would most likely be a better place to start. I did locate one, launder it and it is currently waiting patiently on our headboard to be pressed into use. It could also be used as a blindfold, something I think would be fun too.

I looked at butt plugs. I'm not so good with anal and would like to learn to do that better. Musicman seemed sceptical about that. I think he is reluctant because of my history with it. It seems like in order for it to go well, the moon and stars need to be in just the right alignment, which apparently, based on my history, occurs less often then the leap year. I still really want to try though. We watched an instructional video on a beginner set. The only thing I really remember is that the girl in the video did a flame test on them. We both thought that was funny. When Musicman commented it was nice to know that if our home burned our butt plugs would survive, I about lost it laughing.

Of course I had to check out the selection of paddles and crops. Really, what spanko wouldn't at least browse those? I never thought I would like a crop. Then I read a few posts by the wonderful Conina about having the crop used on her breasts. Ooooh, yes please, that sounds like fun.

The last thing I looked at was a selection of vibrators. I know I said we had one and it rarely ever got used, nor were we in any hurry to replace it.  Well, ya see, Musicman has a goal. His goal is teaching me to squirt. I'm multi orgasmic, but have never been able to achieve that. He would really like it if I could learn how to do it.

I certainly enjoy his attempts to teach me how to do that. I even think I have come pretty close more then once, but so far it hasn't happened. That is why I looked at the vibrators, maybe one of them would help with that.  I've read that some women can't squirt, I hope I'm not one of them. That would be a total bummer.

So, what do you think? What toys do you have? Do you have a favorite toy? Have you ever used edenfantasys, or is there another company you like? If left to my own devices I would probably go hog wild and order all kinds of stuff. That pretty much guarantees that it would be overwhelming for both of us when faced with the actual evidence. Not the outcome I am trying to achieve here. Come shopping with me, any and all help, suggestions and advice is welcome. 





47 comments:

  1. OOOh i love penis gags and think there more comfortable than ball gags and i like the security and comfort of having my mouth filled lol

    As for vibrators well i umm have a few but i would recommend for some fun a remote control vibrator, you can get some neat little ones that can be worn out and about and with the dom having the remote it can well be interesting..although im always concious of people hearing the buzzing!

    Implement wise my favourite is the cane, which yes i know seems to intimidate some but it really can be a yummy experience it doesnt have to be real hard...honestly.

    I do think its a good idea to visit a store if possible to get a feel of things..well as much as is possible lol

    Butt plugs are a good way of getting used to having something in your ass obviously and you can start small and work up, i think with anal it is that adjustment of having something there.


    good luck, look forward to hearing how the purchases turn out.

    tori x

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    1. I would love to go to an actual brick and mortar store, but Musicman says no. I never knew a penis gag existed until I read Jake's post. I so want one, but probably not the best place to start :)

      The idea of having a vibrator in me while out and about and him having the control sounds enticing, but after the Ben Wa ball experience I think I would be too worried to actually enjoy. Not a pleasant experience thinking you might end up having a Doc fishing sex toys out of you, lol.

      I think I will definitely get a butt plug, I really want to learn to do anal better. I'm currently looking at the ones that come with training wheels, cause I'm such a newbie, lol :)

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  2. We shop at EdenFantasys quite a bit, and have been very satisfied with the products and service we've received. If you want a discount there, our discount code is 3U9.

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    1. Thanks for the input and sharing your discount code. Bwahahah, that makes it easier to purchase more :)

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  3. We have a vibrator we use every once in a while. DH doesn't like anything in my butt but his fingers or dick. The only advice I can give to that would be take your time, relax, and lube! I always tell DH, don't be proud, just use lube!

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    1. I'm awful with anal, really it's occurred successfully less then a handful of times in all the years we have been together. I do want to learn though. I think with the right plug and of course lube I can get used to it :)

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  4. SM and I are experimenting with squirting, but no success either. She has gotten very wet, but no actual squirting. Practice makes perfect...or is at least fun.

    TTFN
    Mr. No Name

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    1. That's about what happens here too, lol. We'll definitely keep practicing :)

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  5. I avoid Eden Fantasies after having read several articles about their shoddy business practices. My last purchases I made from EroticToyTown and they were really good to me. Not as huge a selection, but awesome service. I have a discount code for them too which I can send you.

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    1. Oh, and we avoid anything that buzzes or vibrates, but my favorite toy is the "Big End" anal plug. You may want to start with the "Li'l end," and don't be tricked into getting the "iridescent" one instead, because while it IS pretty, it doesn't last as long and the layers start coming apart after a few months.

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    2. Thanks for the link, I'm gonna check it out. I would really like to go to a store instead of buying online, but if I wait for that I will never get anything, lol.

      I'm not so attracted to buzzing or vibrating things either, the sound is distracting and in past experiences haven't really done much for me.

      I will definitely be looking at the plugs, I want one, teeheehee :)

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  6. I enjoy toys! If you are going to bother with a vibrator you need to get a Hitachi Magic Wand, you'll squirm with that for sure. All the small vibrators we have picked up a different toy site just don't seem to work for very long. I really like butt plugs but regardless of the size - and of course start small - it that it need a very small 'neck' or retention area. Many don't for some reason, and they won't stay in.

    I love the blindfold and cuffs as well as anything!

    Let us know what you decide on!

    Hugs,
    PK

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    1. PK, I'm familiar with the Hitachi from the time I worked in Rehab. He would probably have to tie me up to get anywhere near me with it. Not saying that's not an option mind you, lol.

      Thanks for the heads up about the neck area on plugs, I will be sure and look at that. I really want one :)

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  7. We've used Eden Fantasy and Too Timid. Have had good luck with both. We have several vibrators, my new best friend is a butterfly. I agree with PK about the butt plugs. I also like anal beads - they are fun.

    I love the leather paddle and the doggin bat the best for spankings.

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    1. Ooooh, totally forgot about the doggin bat. Have to get me one of them, thanks for reminding me, lol.

      I will be checking out Too Timid, thanks for the info. I really don't like online shopping, I just don't trust I'm gonna get what I paid for.

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  8. Master's piece has a list of kinky suppliers on her blog, and has also done a fair amount of reviews. Her blog is here:
    http://deviantrabbit.blogspot.com/
    Personally I'm drooling over the hook that looks like some sort of medieval torture device lol.

    I did a few reviews for Eden Fantasys and they were very nice. I only got one product I thought was really shoddy (1 out of four), but I have read some pretty gnarly things about them from by people who worked there and other reviewers. Including repackaging returned products.

    Personally, I don't like vibrators because I have a really hard time orgasming (totally should be a word) without them after using them. But it doesn't sound like that would be an issue for you!

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    1. Thanks for the link to Master's piece blog, I will definitely check it out.

      I'm not even gonna ask about the hook, don't think I'm anywhere near ready for that, lol.

      Edenfantasys conacted me about doing reviews too. If I actually order something from them I may, since I will probably want to tell ya'll about my new toys anyway. But, ewww!!! I definitely don't want something someone else has used. I like consignment shop clothes, but sex toys? I think not!!!!

      Achieving orgasm is definitely not an issue for me, and don't really want a vibrator. I just wonder if it would help with the squirting thing. I've seen the G spot vibrators so if I get one it will probably be one of those.

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    2. Njoy's Pure Wand is a non-vibrating g-spot toy.

      It's awesome.

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    3. Oh!!! Good to know!!!! LOL :)

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  9. I'm a big proponent of retail therapy! Within reason, of course. I just did some myself last week, I'm glad you got some new things for yourself as well. And I imagine the drop in clothing size had to have felt good!

    We do have several toys, Cael's big on toys. Myself? Not so much, but I'm learning to embrace them because it makes him happy, which makes me happy. We have a glass plug from Crystal Delights. I'm...getting used to it. I do recommend glass, we have a smaller plastic plug and it's less tolerable than the glass. We've also used Cane-iac (for a paddle) and Adam & Eve (lingerie). Our newest "toy" is tape. Okay, I can't believe I just shared all that! But there you have it. Happy Shopping!

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    1. I had so much fun shopping. I got 3 skirts, a sundress and a purse. Two of the items still had the original tags on them. My total was less then the original price of one of the skirts :) And yeah, I loved the drop in size.

      I never thought about glass before, thanks for giving me more to think about, lol. And do tell us all about the tape :)

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    2. I can barely get it out without blushing! Think of things you can tape shut and see where your imagination takes you.

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    3. Haahaahaaahaaahaaa!!!!! My imagination already went there ;) Good for you!!!!

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  10. I never liked the Ben Wa balls either - we just threw ours out. But I do love the vibrating egg - same concept, but with a string so that you know it is not getting lost.

    My other favorite toys are my mask and my nipple clamps... I have a pair that I can wear under a shirt (just tightens around the nipple, no chains or anything) - if you can handle everyone staring at your taut nipples, then it's the best.

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    1. Oh my god, I read Riley's response after I posted and I forgot - glass dildo's - those I love... they are so unforgiving and then when the real thing replaces it, I just go crazy.

      I have only used those vaginally though... glass. yes. need to pull that one out.

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    2. Honestly I'm not sure why I haven't just ditched the Ben Wa balls yet, I'm never gonna use them. So traumatizing getting them stuck. I have nightmares about showing up at the ER to have them fished out, lol.

      I totally forgot about nipple clamps, we currently use clothespins, but I need something adjustable. Hmmm. some that can be worn under clothes, I like that idea :) I just browsed a bit at gladd fantasy, I'm in love, heeheehee.

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    3. Oh crud, that's supposed to say "glass fantasy." I hate typos, lol.

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  11. Mrs. AP and I are big fans of the glass toys. Glass Fantasy is a great place to find them. While they're more expensive they're compatible with all lubes, non porous, can be cleaned in the dishwasher, and don't ever lose shape. Mrs. AP has a tapered one with a loop handle that does wonderful things wherever it goes...

    It took Mrs. AP years to relax enough to figure out that she can squirt, and she and I watched every video on "how" that she could find one night before we started working on it together. It took some time, but now she can has to fight to hold it back from flooding the sheets even during gentle lovemaking. Some advice; invest in a waterproof mattress cover (the bed bug rated ones with a padded top work well) as well as something like the Fascinator Throe. Soaking through 3 towels and the sheet to still get the mattress wet happened more than once with us.

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    1. Thanks for telling me about glass fantasy, I checked it out just briefly, but yeah, I see something from them in my future. Soooo pretty.

      Years???? That's a bit depressing, but good to know it is doable. I've watched videos and read articles, I do think at this point it is a matter of me relaxing enough to get there.

      Thanks for the tip on the bed cover, we have a waterbed though, so not an issue for us.

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  12. Hmmm. I love shopping!! :) and loved the humour in this post :)
    I'm not sure you should take any advice from me though lol!
    We have nipple clamps. Have you any idea what a selection there is out there?? Very confusing! And for one who had little anal play experience, thought that medium would be a good starting point. Y'know, not too big, not too small. If you travel down this road, start with small ok :) I have to say though, I really really like anal play.
    I don't like vibrators at all. Unless used for 'outside' stimulation. And then of course all the usual blindfolds/cuffs etc. The ball gag...... have no experience here at all, but I'll let you know if this changes :) My spanking implement preferences tend to change quite a bit.
    Happy shopping :)

    Dee x

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    1. I can't believe I totally forgot to mention nipple clamps, I so want some. We have tried clothespins, but have discovered I need adjustable ones. Yes I have seen the dizzying amount of styles out there, care to share which ones you have?

      Medium would be a good place to start, lol. Sorry to laugh, but that is funny. I will definitely start small, as I said, I'm not at all good at anal.

      If we get a vobrator it will most likely be a G spot one, I don't particularly care for vibrators, but maybe it will be helpful in achieving the goal of me squirting :)

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  13. I'm a big fan of Cane-Iac. Good prices and quality of toys are excellent. Master and Mistress Cane-Iac are so friendly and nothing too much trouble. If you need any information about a particular toy your interested in they are more than happy to answer.

    The cane I love. Doesn't always have to be for punishment. OTK cane is good. One of my all times favourites is the leather paddle from John - http://leatherthornpaddles.homestead.com Superb quality and will last for ever.

    A glass dildo is on my wishlist.

    Please let us know what you decide on.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. I didn't know about glass dildos, I checked out glass fantasy, I'm in love, lol. I did have a quick look at caneiac, there stuff looks intimidating, but fun :)

      Haven't had time to check the leatherthorn site yet, but I'm gonna. I will definitely let ya'll know what I decide on. I may need instructions on how to use some of this stuff, lol.

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  14. i have some toys in THIS POST

    i also have a couple of vibrators (i can't cum without... trust me, i've tried, it's just one of those things i've learnt to accept)

    and the butt plugs really did help with getting used to having something there... heh.

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    1. Ya never know, maybe some day you will be able to orgasm without a vibrator :) It would be fun to practice anyway, lol.

      I am pretty sure I will end up with some kind of plug, cause yeah, I really want one. I mean really, what kind of good sub can't do anal?

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  15. Caniac is ther way to go. They have a good selection and fast service. Let us know what you decide on. I also think stating out with a smaller will help you get more comfortable with anal. You should try it and see. Happy Shopping.

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    1. Do butt plugs come with training wheels? LOL, I feel like that's what I need, I'm really not good at anal and would like to change that. I took a quick look at caneiac, sorta intimidating, but I did see some interesting things :)

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  16. Ok I am really late here, but I am thinking..... (and advertising the fact that I am SUCH a newbie)....my teens would open the package! Then what? So I have absolutely no good advice- just humor!
    Minelle

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    1. Never too late to join the party Minelle :)

      As for teenagers opening the package, all I can say is, Yikes, I never even thought of that. LOL. Who's the Newbie? :0

      Our son never checks the mail, but I guess I don't know for sure he wouldn't open something. Aw dang, somethin' else to worry about :( LOL!!!!!

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    2. My kids always order things off of Amazon etc. If they get to ANY package it's toast. So if I were daring enough to "purchase" something fun, I would have to find a store...farther away (so I do not see any students around!!) Hmmmmmmmm:)

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  17. I squirt a lot. My husband says it's about finding the g-spot (up around the bend, the place where the skin turns hard like a button when you give it attention.

    I also threw out the ben-wa balls. Vibrating egg was kinda fun-- the kind with the remote that your husband can hold so you could be out to dinner and he starts it up.

    After a long time of not much interest in anal, I am suddenly curious again. In the end, it seems like it's not the toy so much as the anticipation of buying it and knowing you're going to try them out together. :)

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    1. We do know where the G spot is, I am just beginning to think mine is broken, lol. But we will keep trying, afterall practicing is so much fun.

      I still haven't decided what I want :( Just so much to look at and consider :)

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  18. Enjoy! Hope you have some fun times ahead.

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  19. I'd agree that a penis gag isn't the best type to start with, but it might easily be appropriate for a second gag after you've had a chance to get used to more of a beginner model. I think the shape adds extra incentive to enjoy the experience of being gagged. There are a couple different models of penis gag available--the one pictured is the best one Joy and I have found so far.

    Thanks for the call out, and enjoy whatever toys you purchase!

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    1. That gag has intrigued me since you posted about it, never thought much about them until then :)

      Your blog is such a fountain of information, I could have easily referenced it on just about every toy I mentioned. So thank you for sharing all the great information.

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  20. Most welcome, faerie! And I have to confess that the Friday adventure idea I just posted was inspired because you made me think of this gag. Thank you!

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