Monday, November 25, 2013

Finally...He Responds

Patience, patience, patience. I have none. I do believe that when God was passing out patience, I held the door for everyone else and by the time I got there he had none left.

Friday night Musicman finally responded to my latest suggestion. It only took a week and a half. Seems like such a simple thing to ask and the waiting was a bit of a challenge for me, but I did it. In his defense, I did not actually explain to him that this was important to me, or why it was.

Not only was I looking for a way to stay connected, both with him and with my sub side, in a house full of people, where spanking(the one sure thing that keeps me connected)is almost nonexistent. I have another reason for proposing this activity.

The pit bull is starting to emerge again. She has good reason. We are currently undergoing testing and Dr. visits for clearances needed for a surgical procedure that Musicman needs to have done.

Musicman has a very complicated medical history. We manage it very well, so most people don't even realize the daily challenges he faces. I believe the fact that I am a natural born caregiver who chose to make that my profession, is one of the reasons the universe put us together. I do an excellent job of coordinating everything and making sure he gets the best possible care available. If he doesn't, they have to answer to the pit bull. Btw, pit bull is the name that Musicman uses to describe me and my actions, when referring to his complicated medical issues.

I'm grateful for the pit bull, she always comes roaring out when we need her. The only problem with that, is that she is so far away from my sub side. When the pit bull comes out, the sub side hides, most likely from fear of getting her head chewed off. Cause that's what pit bulls do, they chomp down and they don't let go.

Knowing that there is a need for her, I wanted to find a way to keep my sub side from going into hiding. It always takes so long for her to come back and I miss her when she is gone. I want to try and prevent the backsliding that occurs when she is around, hence my suggestion.

So, what was my suggestion? Well, we've never been the kind of couple that observes many formal D/s practices. There is nothing we do that, if seen by others, would indicate we are a D/s couple. There is no kneeling, no asking for permission for everyday things, no rules to be followed. Yes, there are some things I seek his permission for and some rules that I follow, but those are things that were setup years ago. They don't feel like D/s to me, they just feel like showing him the respect he deserves, not as a Dom, but as my husband and a human being.

We spend most evenings together, hanging out in our bedroom, relaxing, watching TV and talking about our days. It is a time I thoroughly enjoy. I suggested that maybe on a few of those evenings instead of sitting next to him on the couch, I could sit at his feet. I also asked that during those evenings, if he should choose to indulge me, that he could be a bit more in charge of things. I gave him several ideas of what I meant by that, but, of course, how he chooses to implement it is up to him.

He chose to have me sit at his feet Friday night for the first time. He didn't ask anything of me, but I did give him a nice foot rub. I received a lovely back rub and a very satisfying romp on the couch soon ensued. Afterwards, he did say he had an idea for next time, but he hasn't shared what that is yet. Doesn't really matter to me, I'm ready for more, more, more, whenever he is. Hopefully, it's soon.



24 comments:

  1. so glad He responded, and in a positive way. prayers that all goes well with the medical issues.

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    1. Thanks HS, the pit bull will do absolute best to make sure things go well.

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  2. I do think this may be my first comment here so I want to say I enjoy reading.

    I struggle with patience too.Hope there's more for you soon!

    aurora

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    1. Hi Aurora :) I figure if I haven't mastered patience after 49 years, I never will. I will however, keep trying.

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  3. so glad he responded to your request positively and hope the opportunity arises again soon! :-) Hugs

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    1. I hope so too, but it may take awhile. I've read that a person has to do something 21 times for it to become a habit. Only 20 more times to go :)

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  4. I'm sorry he has medical condition that makes things a struggle. :(
    I have trouble with patience too lol :)

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    1. Considering how many serious medical issues of his we have dealt with together one might think I'd be better with the patience thing. Unfortunately, that just isn't true.

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  5. Patience?? i must have been the last one let in that room...and they were already out. I hope all goes well with the medical procedure. Good for you for suggesting something t keep the pit bull at bay when she is not needed....hope he continues to respond!
    hugs abby

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    1. Heeheeeheee, I knew I wasn't the only one that left that room without having received the gift of patience :) It has been rather slow going, or that may just be me becoming inpatient with his timeline for things.

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  6. Kneeling at his feet is a good way to get into a submissive state of mind. I hope you enjoy his efforts.

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    1. That's exactly what I was hoping for. A quieter way to get into the submissive mindset.

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  7. Sounds promising for what he's thinking of next. Well done on the patience thing. Definitely not one of my virtues :)

    Dee x

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    1. You must have been helping me hold the door for everyone else :) I am looking forward to hearing about his idea and trying very hard to be patient while I wait.

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  8. Hey Faerie...Very happy Musicman responded so favorably!

    Sending lots of prayers, healing energy and positive thoughts for his medical issues and may pit bull only come out when needed.

    Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Thanks for the prayers and positive healing energy Cat. The support is much appreciated.

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  9. That sounds great! I am glad he responded in such a positive way!

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    1. Me too, I was a bit afraid he would find my request silly. He may have, but if he did he didn't say it.

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  10. Oh and hope the medical issues run smoothly for him since you are working hard to make it so!

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    1. Thanks for the well wishes. I hate being the pit bull, but when she's needed she always coming roaring out.

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  11. Hi Faerie, I struggle with patience too ... a lot! LoL

    I'm so glad he responded positively. I love either kneeling in front of, or sitting at Rick's feet.

    I had to smile at your pit bull because mine is Scrappy Doo LoL. Hmm, not quite the same :) As Cat said, may pit bull only come out when needed.

    I'm sorry to hear about Musicman's medical issues and sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Scooby Do has been one of my favorite cartoons since I was a kid. That was long before Scrappy Do entered the picture, but he's pretty cute too :) Thanks for the well wishes, even though the pit bull will be on duty, she really is just a marshmallow inside.

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  12. the pit bull is necessary. but i understand about the sub side er, subsiding. sorry, i just had to. (giggle...)

    glad he managed to help you connect and stay in touch with her and that stuff is looking up.

    i do wish him well tho, hope the medical condition is something that can / will be solved soon.

    *hugs*

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    1. Heeheehee, loved the play on words :) The medical issue can and will be resolved. Probably not as soon as I would like, but that goes back to that problem with patience I seem to suffer from.

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