Wednesday, February 13, 2013

"Are you too tired for a Blowjob?"


 
 
The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
Thomas Merton


"Are you too tired for a blowjob?"
 
I bet some of us have heard this before. Or some may be thinking, that doesn't sound very Domly, he shouldn't ask, he should just tell me to give him a blowjob. Afterall, as a sub isn't it my place to serve? Aren't I his to use as he pleases?
 
Well, I agree completely, he doesn't need to ask, he can just tell me, but he won't. That's just not in him to do that. He has a core belief that a man does not take pleasure without giving his woman pleasure. A belief I whole heartedly support I might add. Just one of the many reasons I love him so much.
 
I certainly don't want to do anything to change that belief. What I do want to do is get him to understand how much pleasure I get from giving him pleasure. When he's tired or had a long day, I want to make him feel better. A blowjob always makes him feel better.
 
There is something so soothing and satisfying about laying my head on his thigh, face to face with his beautiful manhood. Something so comforting for me knowing that I can take my time and explore to my hearts content. Licking and stroking and sucking, spending time on all his most sensitive areas, my only goal, his pleasure.  
 
There is a total abscence of expectation on my part, other then to bring him pleasure. That is very powerful and very freeing for me. Obviously he is free to participate as much or as little as he would like. He might just lay there and enjoy, maybe occasionally gently stroking my hair and back, that's perfect. He might grab me by the hair and fuck my face, that's perfect too.  He might do both, or neither, but it doesn't really matter. What matters is that it feels good to him.
 
The mental effects for me, of giving him pleasure, in any way he desires at that moment, are the same as a more intense session that is focused on me. In turn, my body responds to the mental stimulation in a physical way. The same physical way it responds to the aforementioned intense session focused on me. In short, I get off too.
 
He may never be entirely comfortable telling me he wants or needs a blow job. Until he is I will keep asking him, "are you too tired for a blowjob?" 
 

20 comments:

  1. I really like the books of Thomas Merton. Excellent quote.

    You are a terrific sub.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. Thanks joey, not always, but I try :)

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  2. This was really nice to read faeire. It is quite enjoyable getting to please them like that isn't it?

    Hugs
    db

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  3. I love the quote.

    It is nice to give pleasure to the person you love. I admit I am fairly new at giving blowjobs - I blush at the word still - somehow sharing my secret desire of spanking with him and him being so accepting of me and making himself vulnerable to try something new also made me feel free to be vulnerable and be more comfortable tying something for him...he never asked but from the look on his face I think he was pleased :-) I am hopelessly inexperienced at it but since we have only been with each other he has nothing to compare it to and doesn't seem to mind that I am just making it up as I go...

    Hugs, Terps

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    1. Half the fun is in the learning :) If I were a betting girl, I'd say he'll be up for practicing as often as you'd like, lol.

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  4. Musicman is a blessed man having you, faerie!

    Love,
    Hannah

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    1. Thank you Hannah, but really, we're both blessed to have each other :)

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  5. I love the quote. Perfect.

    You are a blessing to Musicman.

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    1. That quote was just so fitting for what I was thinking I had to use it. I might be a blessing to Musicman, but he is my reward for surviving and finding love.

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  6. Oh faerie, I love this post. Not only do I think Thomas Merton was absolutely amazing, but your insights on what being a good sub is. You and Musicman have a marvelous relationship! Thank you for your post. Really...it was exceptionally meaningful to me!

    hugs,
    fiona

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    1. Thank you for the kind words fiona. I'm so happy to enjoyed it :) As for being a good sub, well...I have my moments, lol.

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  7. I think it is sweet to ask. Although, I'm never asked ;)

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    1. Technically, neither am I, lol. But that's okay :)

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  8. Nice thing about BJ's is that both parties can chose how much energy to use. It's mostly about enjoyment.

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    1. Mostly about enjoyment? I'd say it's ALL about enjoyment, but that's just me, lol :)

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  9. Happy Valentines' day you two lovebirds. So glad you have each other to get through this time.

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    1. Happy Valentine's Day to you sunnygirl. It is good to have someone to face the tough times with. It can certainly make the difference between getting through them intact or not. But I know you know that too :)

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