Sunday, October 28, 2012

Subtle and Sneaky

When I first proposed adding D/s and spanking to our bedroom antics it didn't occur to me that he would have fantasies or inclinations that I didn't know about. I never stopped to consider that he would propose ideas of his own. Naive of me, I know, but that's me, sometimes still very naive.

It didn't take long for me to realize the truth. Dominance looks somewhat different to him then it does to me. The first time he took the initiative and did something I had never even thought about, I was surprised. Surprised, but happy. Happy that he took the initiative, surprised that what he did turned me on.

Shortly thereafter he proposed something I wasn't so pleased about. That thing I've talked about, but still can't name. Something that had previously been a hard limit for me. It's still a limit, but no longer a hard one. He pushes me, but it's a subtle push, never too hard or too fast. We haven't breached this soft limit yet, but someday we will. Someday he will have slowly pushed past that limit.

He continues to sporadically push at that limit and others. Recently he has introduced another scenario that he would like to have happen. Again, it's something I knew about, but never really considered as a possibility because I wasn't interested.

He is slowly changing that, pushing my limits in the subtlest of ways. He's smart and sneaky about how he proposes these scenarios to me. He says nothing about them, until he has me right where he wants me. He slowly seduces me, kissing me until I'm breathless. Torturing my nipples until I'm gasping with want and need. Then, and only then does he start talking.

He gives a detailed narration of what he would like to see happen or what he would like to experience. His hands continue to roam my body, hitting all the perfect places at exactly the right moment to keep me on edge. He asks questions of me. What do I think of what he is proposing?

Ordinarily, in other circumstances, I wouldn't be at all interested. Given the frenzy of sexual energy I'm swept up in though, it starts to sound doable to me. I'm focused, not only on what he is doing to me, but on the things he is saying. They now seem more then a suggestion to me, more then just something he wants. I want it too.

He's sneaky, making me want things I never before wanted. Planting the seed and then stepping back to watch it grow. He planted a new seed, a new idea of something he wants. It is starting to grow and flower in my mind. What once, I never thought or considered doing I'm now considering. I'm wondering if what he has proposed might become something more then just a proposal. What once was a hard limit, is no longer.

He's subtle, and sneaky that man of mine. I barely notice anymore when he starts to push at my limits.

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  1. Ooh, they are good like that aren't they?
    Before you know it, your drooling over doing something that you previously would have never even considered an option...

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    1. Exactly! He's sneaky, but it's working :)

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  2. When they take he time to hint and tease and bring us to that point then I have to says that they get an A for effort. There are few hard limits with the one you love, as long as they give you the time to adjust to the idea and you know the final answer still lies with you. Enjoy...

    Hugs,
    PK

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    1. He's definitely giving me time to adjust, and darn it all if his sneaky ways aren't working, lol :)

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  3. lol yes its very clever targeting us when we are vunerable but its effective, generally i just need that idea planted in my head, if i know it pleases him thats what pushes me.

    x

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    1. Very effective, by the second time he suggested this scenario I was pretty much onboard. Drat that man of mine, lol :)

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  4. Hmmm... sounds like he has been taking lessons from Jake doesn't it?

    Yes, they do say never say never, don't they?

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    1. Yanno, I would say yes, but I know he doesn't read blogs. Guess I just have to face the fact that he thinks this stuff up all on his own. Boy could I be in big trouble, heeheehee :)

      He actually said last night that he could get me to do anything he wanted. I couldn't help it, I had to agree.

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  5. As long as you are part of the decision and it is not forced....
    Of course you should also enjoy it.

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    1. He would never force me to do anything. Sneakily plant the seed and wait for to it to grow? Yes, that he would and is doing :)

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  6. Sounds like He gets an A+ in dominance...how to get what you want, and make her want it too...takes a smart man to know that is the road to happiness!
    hugs abby

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    1. He is a pretty smart guy :) I always knew he was naturally dominant, I guess I just never thought about how much he suppressed it before now.

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  7. I get the feeling it's more than just pouncing on an opportunity when you are vulnerable. Such a careful and well-planned approach shows that he cares about ensuring a certain level of comfort/pleasure/openness for you before broaching ideas that might normally be a challenge to wrap your head around or get on board with. I think it's cool that you are pushing boundaries together:)

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    1. Thanks Tess, I think it's pretty cool too :) He has always assured me he would never force me to do something I wasn't comfortable with. However, he never promised not to try and change my mind :)

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  8. Subtle and sneaky...I like that! If that thing is what I think it is, we went through something very similar when ttwd was introduced and he's been pushing for it since. I think the fact that you're a little more open to it is great. You never know, maybe you'll end up liking it!

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    1. Maybe I will at that :) Wanna compare notes and see if it's the same thing? I'll give you a hint, look at the faerie pic I posted on this post.

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  9. Your MM is a genius. He knows just how to make you want what he wants in the best way. No pushing, shoving, just gentle nudges. Such a smart man deserves you friend.

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    1. Well...I don't know that I would say genius, lol. Pretty crafty of him though, to get me thinking and wanting things I never would have.

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  10. It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship based on trust and play...enjoy expanding your boundaries.

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    1. You are a wise lady, trust is definitely the base of our relationship. That trust is what makes the play and pushing boundaries so much fun :)

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  11. I always kind of knew that was his job, to push and expand my limits. But sometimes, I sit back, like you, and think - hey! I knew I wouldn't like that....but....I do :"> lol. Sneaky indeed :)

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    1. The way he goes about it is what I find subtle and sneaky, but effective :)So I guess that is okay, cause if he was just in my face pushing I wouldn't take it so well.

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  12. Sigh. They get awfully good at this stuff don't they? Sure-reduce me to a damp begging mess and then slip in an idea....soon enough I'll be right where he wants me-and not complaining, either!

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  13. Yep, that exactly what he does. What I want to know is how do they know to do that? LOL :)

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