Wednesday, September 12, 2012

I need your help...Come take my poll and help a girl out

I love getting the edenfantasys newsletter emails every couple days. I've tried, with no success, to get Musicman to take me to an actual brick and mortar sex toy shop. He won't do it.  He doesn't care what toys I buy, but he isn't going into one of those shops, just not his thing I guess. Since I found edenfantasys and every purchase from them has gone well, I will continue to use them. I've been scammed a few times in the past and am not very trusting of purchasing things online. They have been a pleasure to deal with, so for the moment, they fit the bill for me.

They have a lot of choices and so far I have loved everything I have gotten. But, I now find myself in a bit of a dilemma. Having never really played much with toys in the past, we had nothing, so my first obvious choices were things that I really, really wanted. Things I felt I just had to have. They've been great choices so far, though we still don't always use them as much as I would like. I think it's kinda a learning curve for us. We went so many years without using toys that it is not a natural inclination to reach for them. When we use what we have it's tons of fun, we just don't think of it all that often. Ehh..something for us to work on, as I see it anyway.

Here's my dilemma, I have two things I'm interested in. I can't make up my mind which one I want next. I could, of course, get both. But that doesn't seem like the best approach for me. I think one new toy at a time is enough of a challenge for us at this point. I don't want to be overwhelmed by a bunch of toys we don't use all that much.

I thought maybe you could help me decide. I thought I would share what I'm interested in and then I would put up a poll. You can cast a vote for what you think I should get, or leave a comment, or both. Whatever tickles your fancy.

So, here is the first thing I'm considering:

Fashionistas small bunny tail butt plug - Butt plug
Here's the link with the info about it.

It's a glass butt plug. I don't have a plug and would like to get one, but there are so many to choose from. This one has features I really like, and features I don't like. First of all, it's glass, I love my glass dildo, so that is appealing. Also, it has faeries etched on it. Yeah...sounds like it was made for me, doesn't it? As I said though, there are features I don't like. It has a fluffy bunny tail on it. Cute, but so not interested in that.  When I showed it to Musicman he suggested I get it and remove the fluffy tail. I could do that, but I'm just not sure.

I'm not sure, cause something else has caught my eye.  I have kinda fallen in love with the idea of getting some cuffs. I'm blaming that on Jake, if he didn't post such salacious posts as this one, or this one I probably wouldn't want them so much. They are positively drool worthy posts.

I've been looking at the selection of cuffs for a while. I like the looks of several pairs, but, since I've never used any I'm not too sure which ones I should try. I love the look of this pair.
Inked restraints tattoo wrist cuffs - Wrist cuffsI'm drawn to the fact that they have "tattoos" on them. I have quite a bit of my own real ink and always love the look. I just don't know how comfortable or sturdy they might be. I don't want to be drawn in by the pretty pictures. That happens sometimes.

So, I also have considered a pair like these.
Plushy gear wrist cuffs - Wrist cuffsThey're not very pretty to look at, but they do seem sturdy and maybe more comfortable than leather. The product reviews say they are a good starter set, so maybe I should get those. Bonus, they have a matching pair of ankle cuffs available should I decide I want to get them too at some point. I'm not too sure about ankle cuffs, simply because we have a water bed. Fastening anything to a water bed is darn near impossible, unless we put some eye hooks in the wooden frame. 

Then there is this pair.

Tantric satin ties wrist cuffs - Wrist cuffsI just flat out like the way they look, they're pretty, that appeals to me, in a big way. They also have matching ankle cuffs available. I just don't know how sturdy they would be. And again, I don't want to be persuaded just by the look. Pretty, shiny things entrance me, but it doesn't mean they are my best bet or that I should put forth my hard earned money to buy them.

I just don't know what I should get. The more I look at them and the more I think about it the more indecisive I become. That's where you come in my friends. Cast your vote on the poll, or leave me a comment. Share your experiences with me, educate me, help me make a decision. Do I go for the butt plug, or do I get a pair of cuffs? Which pair of cuffs would you choose? Should I succumb to the butt plug with faeries etched on it or would you recommend a different one? Help! Please!





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  1. I voted for the glass butt plug simply because its what i would go for out of the 4 lol

    With regards to the cuffs, i know he wont go in a shop but would you consider going on your own or with a close friend because these are probably items you should try out, for comfort, for size...if it has to be online check to make sure they are adjustable i know its stating the obvious lol comfort is priority

    do like the idea of the poll

    x

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    1. I wouldn't go on my own, for many reasons. One being, we don't have any toy shops in our city. I also don't have any friends, other than Musicman, that I would shop for toys with.

      I want that plug, it's got faeries on it, it's sparkly pretty, lol.

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  2. If you're interested in a plug, I greatly recommend anything from Njoy. They're definitely a bit pricey, but they're worth every dime if you really want one, and they're great for long term wear as well.

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    1. I've didn't even think all that much about long term wear. Hmmmm....more to think about. Thanks for joining the conversation :)

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  3. My vote would be the second set of cuffs you showed--they look sturdy, they wont rub your wrists raw (edges matter), and cuffs are just fun.

    Personally, I would avoid plugs with etching on them. Since you never seem to have your head up your butt, you won't be seeing much of them anyways.
    I'm drooling over an Njoy myself. Though I do giggle every time I see a sugar packet with that label...

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    1. Yeah, I think I might be leaning towards those cuffs.

      I grew up hearing, "get your head out of your ass and...", it was one of my Dad's favorite things to say when he was irritated with me. Which was often, lol. The etching does seem a bit impractical, but...it's a faerie!!!!

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  4. I'd vote for the plug, too, faerie - but I'm just that kind of girl, lol. I'd love to get a nice set of restraints, but Daddy uses silk ties and there is something deliriously delicious about that.

    Just a couple points if you elect the cuff - I've read that you should get ones that are lined, the lining is a soft material, and there is no stitching or studs on the side that will contact your flesh to avoid skin irritation and damage.

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    1. The second set of cuffs is a soft plushy material, that's something I have considered. Silk ties sound yummy :)

      As for the plug, I think I'm that kind of girl too. There are just so many to choose from. It's no wonder I want the shiny one with the faerie on it...is it?

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  5. Me, me call on me, I have an opinion!! But you're shock, huh? You have to have a butt plug! They are my favorite toys, hands down - but I would NOT by one on line. It's just something you need to see before you buy. We have bought on line and they have all been too big to even play with (they didn't look that big in the picture) The one you have pictured here has a nice small neck - also another important feature. But if you haven't played with one before I'm betting you'll find it too large. You may have to visit the sex shop all by yourself. Plugs are the greatest, but start small or it won't be as much fun.

    I have cuff like the orange ones here, ours are purple. and I really like them.

    Let us know what you decide - glass does sound good!

    Hugs,
    PK

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    1. Heeheeheee, I thought you would have an opinion. And, I thought it would be a vote for the plug :) We don't have a toy shop in our city, that kinda makes going alone impossible. Those pics can be deceiving, can't they? And it really doesn't help me much to look at the dimensions either. That's probably why I am drawn to the shiny one with the faeries on it :)

      The lacing on the orange cuffs matches the lacing on my collar. I didn't think to check if I could get a different color, orange isn't my favorite. Do they wear well? Do you have the matchig ankle cuffs?

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    2. The wear well, velcro means that they're light weight and they do feel good. I don't have ankle cuff but I'd like some.

      PK

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  6. Oh good luck on deciding which one!!! I wish I could tell you that I have one of them but I don't! So I don't know which one you should get.....I haven't been toy shopping in quite some time....maybe I should soon:)

    Belle:)

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    1. Ooooh, you so should, then share with us, lol. There are so many things to choose from. Positively makes a girl dizzy :)

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  7. I recommend the Mood Naughty large silicone butt plug, or the Bootie - NOT one with etching, or a glass one for a beginner. (the large mood naughty is still quite small)

    They're both out of stock on EF, but you can buy them from amazon, though I do recommend going into a store so you can see the sizes for yourself.

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    1. I'll probably never get to see the inside of an adult toy store. We don't have one in the city I live in :(

      I tend to shy away from anything other then natural materials. I am VERY sensitive to synthetics and such. Though I have wondered if the rigidity of glass is a good to begin with.

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  8. I voted for the Plushy Gear wrist cuffs. I think functionality is more important than style when it comes to cuffs. (even though the others do look really cool) Plus You can add on the ankle cuffs later.

    I personally think the butt plug is cooler, but it sounds like you'd end up being happier with the cuffs so that's what I went with.

    Either way I'm sure you'll have fun, enjoy!

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    1. I'm still undecided, but I'll let you know what I get. Probably in more detail then you want to hear, lol. I am leaning towards those particular cuffs though :)

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  9. Fun post!
    But I would echo the previous suggestion of going into a shop on my own or with a friend. There are some things, especially if its a new toy/experience, that are just better to touch and feel in your hands.
    What is it that bothers Musicman about the mortar and brick places? If its the thought of other people, a lot of shops will be happy to arrange an appointment for you to come in and browse.

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    1. That's just not going to happen. We don't have one in our city, and I don't have a friend I would do that with.

      Musicman is extremely discreet. He is fine with all kinds of kink, behind closed doors, or in the pool area, or the car on a back road, or a deserted beach, or any number of other places. But not around other people. I didn't know you could make appointments, I will have to check that out. In fact, it gives me a good idea...I'll get back to you if it pans out :)

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  10. Hmmm, well, I'm not sure I'd choose any of them. I would steer clear of a plug with etching on it, even if it does look cool. And now that we have a set of rope cuffs from cane-iac I've lost my interest in other ones because the rope ones are so comfortable. I suppose I wasn't much help, but I hope you end up liking whatever you choose. ;)

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    1. I know the etching is kinda impractical. But isn't it pretty? It's a faerie!!!!

      I checked out those rope cuffs. Are they really comfortable? Cause, they don't look like it. I can't do rope burn at work :)

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  11. Cuffs are nice and if you can get ankle cuffs to go with the...they can always be attached to your wrist cuffs if there are no tether points on your bed. As for the plug - the size is very important - as is the base. Also - think of cleaning - etching is beautiful but not as much for cleaning. Good luck - it's awesome to read everyone's POV. Let us all know what you decide :)

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    1. Oh ya - the other thing with cuffs is to think about how much you will pull, squirm or fight your restraint. This should go into your decision making on how sturdy they need to be :-)

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    2. You aren't the first one that has mentioned the base. Size seems an obvious consideration though. I think that is why I am having such a hard time choosing, so many things to consider :)

      Sturdiness and comfort are a definite consideration with the cuffs. But I really do get distracted by the prettiness of things :) Not always such a great way to make decisions.

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  12. Toys! Fun!
    I am a big fan of glass plugs-because my body doesn't react well to man made substances....of the non natural kind :) Personally I wouldn't want the bunny tail, but that's just me.....And I really liked the black leather cuffs-I do have a pair and we love them! There is much to be said about going to a store-the size is sometimes a surprise!

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    1. Mine doesn't either, that's why I like glass. I don't care for the bunny tail either. If I do get that plug, I'll take it off :) I'd love to go to an actual store, just doesn't seem to be in the cards for me right now.

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  13. I just voted for the middle pair of cuffs--they look sturdy and comfortable as you say, and cuffs are so versatile and come in handy in so many ways!

    Butt plugs are nice, too, though! However, I agree with the other commenters that this is not the one I'd recommend, especially for a first purchase. My feeling is that different butt plugs work best for different purposes. Our current favorite right now is the "Mood Naughty" plug, and we use it for long term wear. If you want something that feels a little bigger inside you, you might consider the "Tristan" plug, but it's not as good for extended wear.

    Hope you enjoy whatever you purchase, faerie, and thanks for the call outs!

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    1. Thanks for the inspiration :) You know how to make a girl crave restraints!! I'm definitely leaning towards those cuffs. Pretty doesn't always cut it.

      I've read all your reviews on the different plugs. You and Joy are so far above my level it sometimes boggles my mind. I'm going for basic beginner here, lol.

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  14. Lol, that bunny tail would HAVE to go. Sounds like any of those would be good additions to your toy box, but I think the pink tattoo cuffs are super cute!

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    1. Yeah, the bunny tail sooooo doesn't do it for me :) But it's shiny and has a faerie on it. How am I supposed to resist that?

      I have a lot of ink myself, and love the look of the tattoo cuffs, but they don't look very comfy.

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  15. You need a butt plug with no etching. I love the very pricy Njoy brand. sigh.
    The cuffs.. definitely go for comfort over cuteness. I have "cute " red leather.. and they just cute. Never use them.. plus I could take them off if I struggled hard enough.
    Heavy leather with padding is best.. and trying them on is best.. or a good return policy.
    Good luck and enjoy whatever you buy!

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    1. That's what I don't like about the tat cuffs, that they might just look good and not actually be effectual.

      I'll let you know what I pick :)

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  16. I love my cuffs! Mine are leather I would recommend that..I love the smell, the feel,,myare also fur lined so very comfy.

    ON the other hand, nothing puts me is a very submissive space faster than have Master say....bottom toy. I have 2 sizes, I really think you have to see it before you buy.

    One purchase now...one soon! LOL
    hugs abby

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    1. Mmmm...hadn't thought about the smell of leather, which is weird cause I love the way our leather flogger smells :)

      I do believe one now and one soon might be the best way to go, lol.

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  17. My boyfriend seems to think the butt plug with bunny tail is hot wpecifically b/c of the tail - which just perplexes me lol! My vote is the Corset Cuffs! Good luck!

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    1. The corset cuffs are pretty aren't they? They would match my collar :) I don't really get the bunny tail either, lol. Maybe you could try it and let me know?

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  18. The survey isn't showing up for me - but i second all the no etching - go for njoy advice. Also - i'm a leather girl - for me cuffs should feel, well - not cozy or soft. I think a plug though - absolutely - there's no substitute for that feeling. Have fun!

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    1. I don't know why the poll didn't show for you, but thanks for contributing anyway :)

      I'm not as worried about cozy or soft as I am about trying to hide marks at work. And, I definitely have my doubts about the etching. It's just so pretty :)

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  19. I'm not going to be any help-- they all look amazing. I agree with musicman that the fluffy tail could be removed from the butt plug.

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    1. I know, there are just so many things to look at and choose from. For a newbie like me it can be a bit overwhelming sometimes :)

      That tail would have to go. It just doesn't do it for me.

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  20. Rope is more fun than cuffs, so my vote would be the plug. If I had the $ I would get the N joy. It is on my wish list.

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    1. Rope? Really? You don't get rope burn? Rope marks at work aren't going to go over well. I'm still very unsure about what plug. That one just seems kinda taylor made for me. It has a faerie on it, lol :)

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  21. i think i would go for the second pair of cuffs. i'll vote on the top over there.

    that plug looks scary as a first purchase. and the tail has GOT to go!!

    cuffs that have a matching set of ankle cuffs for future purchase sound good.. you can always attach to the wrist cuffs rather than to the bed. Jake's got the how to use cuffs manual on his blog!

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    1. oh, and aside from the recommendations for Njoy plugs, i hear the Bootie from fun factory is a good choice too. i've seen the reviews on some forums, and remember seeing it on Down the Rabbit Holetoo.

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    2. Oh! Yeah! The tail would definitely go. I know I'm just taken with the fact it has faeries on it. Knowing me the way I do, I would probably get it, take the tail off, put it on a silver chain and wear it as a pendant. Now that's unique, Haahaahaa :)

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  22. I am late getting over here, but I am going to vote for the plug. Take care.

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    1. It's never too late to join the conversation. You were busy videoing those lovely hands of your man playing beautiful music :)

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  23. Glass butt plug would be my choice. but I have to agree with PK - better to see one. I've ordered them in the past and they have been far too big.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. I am a bit anxious about ordering one on line because of the size issue, but, for now, it's about my only choice.

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  24. I think a glass butt plug would be fun as I do not have one. I have pink leather wrist and ankle restraints that my husband and I enjoy regularly.

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    1. Thanks for joining the conversation anonymous. I want both, but, I'm greedy that way, lol. I'll let you know what I pick :)

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  25. I am piping in late too but if I had to choose between the two, which is tough I would go with a pair of cuffs. The 2nd pair does look comfortable but usually when I am getting cuffed comfortable is not what master cares about. I like the corset ones.

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    1. As I said to SNP, it's never too late :) I think I'm really leaning toward the second pair of cuffs. Though, the corset ones would match my collar. That's something for me to consider too. I don't know that it's necessarily comfort I'm looking for, I just can't have long lasting marks. That would go over like a lead balloon at work.

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  26. At first I really hated the bunny tail thing. I kept going back to it because anal is close to my heart, probably closer than it should be, and that hurt my heart. Too many associations to my feminist youth and Hugh Hefner and such. But when I stopped thinking about that and started thinking about how it would feel to have that touching me I am now strongly leaning towards the fairy bunny booty plug. I hope that's helpful :)

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    1. I never even thought about that, even though I don't care for the tail at all. TBH, I couldn't figure out why it had a tail. I'm just drawn to the faerie on it. Impractical? Probably, but sometimes a girl should be impractical :) I'm betting if I got it, I would take the tail off and wear it on a chain as necklace, lol. But that's just me :)

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  27. I am afraid I am of no help here as I honestly have not had much experience playing with toys (yet)but will look forward to reading everyone's responses and hearing a review. I would love cuffs I think (if I could get my husband to use them) but we could use scarves in the mean time... Have fun shopping, Terps :-)

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    1. I haven't had much experience with toys either. We enjoy the toys we have recently acquired, when we remember to use them :)

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  28. Oh...one more thing...if you decide on the plain black cuffs for comfort...you seem crafty and artistic and would probably be able to decorate them somehow to look pretty if you really wanted...just a thought :-)

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    1. Great idea, I never even thought of that, lol.

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  29. As a stranger, I hope you'll deal with my suggestion with due caution. On the other hand, free advice is marvelous just by the hourly rate perspective ;-)

    So...I'd suggest that you invest in cat collars. They tend to be made of very strong, flexible material that is hypo-alergenic...and cheap. You could get four for less than $10. Toss in a couple of double ended clips from any hardware store and you're in business. They get you the experience without the cost.

    If the experience is not in your ballpark, no problem. You're only out a few bucks...and if you have a cat, you're ahead on your next purchase(s). On the other hand, if it works out, you can then think about what you'd like as far as strength, flexibility and comfort. The double clips are great for key ring catches that you can wear from your jeans too, so no outrageous loss there either.

    Of the choices you offered, my own taste would tend towards the wider, black velcro-ed fastened...but(for me) they'd be too weak I suspect.

    The butt plug would either be my very first choice or my very last because it has every thing to do with the kink of the "recipient". If anal stimulation is high on your list, the choice rises on the list of purchases, if you see what I mean.

    I am sure that you are grateful for my contribution either because you found it helpful or because I didn't do a "knock-knock" joke. Either way, You're welcome :-)

    Good luck and G'bless

    Mr. Upton Ogood

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    1. Welcome Mr. Upton Ogood (great name!) Thanks for the great suggestion about the cat collars. I don't have a cat and never would have thought of that :) I just may have to make a trip to the pet store, lol.

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  30. Hi...sorry, late on reading your post. I know you have a wonderful online shop for toys, but this one is the MOST amazing one. The shop name is women's ware. They only sell good quality toys, of varying prices. They also have this great PDF book (you can also order a hard copy) that explains all toys and possible uses, things to watch out for etc...
    It is also a brick and mortar shop...I pass it on my way to work. I went in to purchase, and I know they are a reputable store. Here is there link...www.woymensware.com
    Oh and re: cuffs...I like the pink and the faerie ones...hate the red...so common...blah...

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