Wednesday, February 8, 2012

A New Lurker

I had planned to show Musicman my blog on Monday, but there was a bit of a mix up with one of his meds. He ended up being quite ill and a flurry of phone calls to Doc and trips for tests and to the pharmacy took up most of the day.

I wish I could say I handled it all very well. That would be a lie. I handled the logistics and organizing of everything well, but my inner bitch definitely came out.  Poor guy, I can't even let him be sick in peace.

He was feeling much better yesterday and was up and around and taking care of things. While he was busy I wrote him an email with a link to my blog. Musicman does not check his email regularly and if I don't let him know I sent one it could sit for months waiting to be found.

I did eventually tell him I sent one, it took a couple hours, but I did tell him.

He read the email, and then followed the link and read some of the blog. I don't know how much he read because when I asked his response was "enough." Have I mentioned before he is not much of a talker?

Needless to say I was nervous while he was reading, if I had had something to clean to keep myself busy I would have. Instead I sat and watched some TV with all kinds of thoughts running through my head, the most prominent being that he would finally realize that yes, I am crazy.

I have a habit of asking him if he thinks I'm crazy. I asked again when he was done reading, he doesn't. He did say that I was a silly girl, but that I'm his silly girl. To me, at that particular moment, that was the sweetest thing he could have said to me.

About the only other information he volunteered was that we need to find a quieter implement. He does have a way of cutting through all the emotional crap and grasping the important things. That is the one thing about being a guy I envy, well that and the ability to pee standing up, lol.

He is not upset about me writing, which is good to know. I didn't think he would be because he has always been supportive of the things that help me feel better. He did remind me of that.

He laughed when I asked if he liked the name I gave him. I've almost slipped and called him Musicman a few times so at least now if it happens he will know what I mean.

He has said that while he is not particularly interested in participating in the blog he is planning on continuing to read. Though maybe I can get him to help me with some of the tech stuff, he is so much better at it than I am.  Gives a whole new meaning to the phrase "love our lurkers."

Our interlude of time is almost over, he will be going back to work soon. I know he will be happy to get back to work, not because he doesn't like spending time with me, but he's a guy, that's what they do. He works hard to provide for his family and being able to do that is important to him. I understand that and am feeling better prepared for it, though I'm gonna miss him tons.

So if you see a big, dark, kinda imposing guy lurking around, don't be worried give him smile and a wave, it's just Musicman keeping an eye on me.


23 comments:

  1. I'm sure he always has his eye on you.
    Glad he got the meds thing worked out.

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    1. He usually is watching, though I often doubt how much he is listening, lol.

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  2. Well done :) The waiting once that blog link I'd sent is quite terrifying eh lol!
    As for being not much of a talker, well, sometimes less is more :)

    Dee x

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    1. Lol! Typo! Blog link is sent, just in case there is any confusion.

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    2. Terrifying is a great way to put it, lol. When it comes to talking it couldn't get much less :) Men!!!

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  3. I love his one word, "enough", lol!

    Daddy is an invaluable help to me writing my blog, especially in regards to technical issues.

    Love,
    Kitty

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    1. He is a very economical man with his words, lol.

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  4. I think this is great. Nick read my blog when I first started and it really helped me explain some things to him by feeling like I was just blogging to my friends. He read several of my friends too but I think I'm about all he reads here now, unless I send him a specific link.

    I know some really quiet implements - unfortunately they all hurt like hell!! And YOU might not be able to keep quiet. I'll email you the ideas, no need to give your lovely lurker any ideas you're not ready to share yet.

    Hey Musicman, it's me PK waving from the sidelines. We love your wife out here and I'm glad you're around.

    Hugs,
    PK

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    1. After some prodding Musicman says, "Hi."

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  5. Welcome Musicman! We are all really nice, I promise. By the way, your wife is great and has been a sweet support to many of us.

    I'm with PK...quiet implements are all so super stingy!

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    1. Thanks for the sweet comment, Musicman did read them and his contribution to the conversation is, "Hi."

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  6. AWWW thats so lovely. Hiya musicman hope you are feeling better.
    Lovely post. My post is a bit of a secret too. I dont yet have the courage to tell my Sir. One day. Until then its my secret place but well done you faerie for telling him and showing him
    love and hugs kiwi xxx

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    1. Hey Kiwi, Musicman is doing better though we still have a ways to go. I think when the time is right you will tell your Sir. Be warned though, it's kinda nerve wracking. He says, "Hi."

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  7. Oh bless your heart... I think we are married to the same guy! My guy doesn't talk much either... and feels the same way about my blog... is ok with it, but doesn't want to really be part of it. I'm the tech guy in the family so I'm really screwed because I'm not very techy! LOL

    Musicman... welcome! We do so love your wife... so wise and so sweet!! Glad your feeling better!! Hope you enjoy her blog as much as we all do!! ;o)

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    1. Ahh, then no need to explain when I say that after reading and some prodding on my part he says, "Hi."

      I have family members who explain to people when they are going to be meeting Musicman for the first time not to take it personally if he doesn't talk to them. Though when he wants to be he is very charming and quite funny.

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  8. Hi! I just found your blog, great post! I had a similar conversation with my boyfriend before I started my blog. First I wanted to start it without saying anything but I felt funny sharing information about "us" without him knowing. He's not crazy over the idea but he said he'll read it "sometimes" and he also helps me with some of the techie stuff! Anyway, happy to see that you were able to tell Musicman about your blog, I know it takes guts to bring that stuff up. I'm always worried I'm "crazy" too :)

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    1. Welcome Riley. Good for you for telling your boyfriend at the beginning. Musicman and I have been together a long time and I was pretty confident he would be okay with it.

      I really do ask him if I'm crazy a lot, lol. I tell him when I stop asking then he should worry :)

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  9. *waves at Musicman* Glad you're feeling better man..

    *hugs the faerie*

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  10. Sweet! Welcome Musicman! Your wife is a gem, but then I'm sure you already know that. ;)

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  11. Musicman says, Hmm.

    Told ya he didn't talk much, lol. It's nice to see you out and about.

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  12. Nice that Musicman is keeping an eye on you. Say hello to him and I am sure he knows how lucky he is to have you.

    FD

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    1. Thank you, though he doesn't say much he is very good at letting me know how much he does appreciate me :)

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