Love Our Lurkers

Yay!!!!! Today is Love our Lurkers Day.

I'm so happy to celebrate this day. Like so many I started out as a lurker. I loved reading about everyones adventures. I fantasized about a D/s lifestyle and wanted it for myself. But, I was afraid. I was afraid to comment because that little white box intimidated me. I was afraid I wouldn't fit in, or I would say something stupid. It seemed liked eaves dropping and I was afraid to reveal myself. Yet, I still identified with so many of the submissive, spanko women in this community.

                                                                                

Eventually I found the courage to start commenting. Guess what? It didn't hurt a bit, no one criticized or belittled me. In fact I was welcomed and encouraged. Shortly after that I started my own blog, my own little corner in this lovely community. People started to read, and leave me comments, that's when I learned how accepting and supportive this community is. It soon felt like home to me.

Over the past year that I've been here I have made so many friends that it is hard to remember that I once found it intimidating to comment. So, if you are reading here and you've never left a comment, let me be the encouraging push you might need.

If you want, just say hello and let me know you were here. I don't bite, unless asked, and I won't belittle or discourage anything you might want to share. As long as you are respectful in the manner you leave the comment, even opposing comments are appreciated. Sometimes I need that kick in the butt to get over myself already. If you're the shy sort, but still want to chat, you can always send me an email. I list my email address on the top left of the blog and I assure you, I would never share with anyone without the authors permission.


I also list quite few blogs I enjoy on my blog roll. Maybe you've taken a peak and even stopped in to visit with some of my friends. If you haven't, let me encourage you to do so, they are wonderful folks. Feel free to let them now faerie sent you.

Welcome Lurkers

Hello everyone, today is Love our Lurkers day.  I'm very new to blogging having started just 2 weeks ago. A little less then a year ago I was one of you, a lurker. I was interested in exploring spanking and D/s with the intent of incorporating it into my marriage of 25 years. It was an interest that I had suppressed for a long time.  So I went exploring and found a wonderful community. I felt like I had found a place of like minded people. I learned lots and confused myself more than I ever thought I could. I have to tell you I lurked almost till the day I made my first post. I was very nervous about commenting. I would read a post and have tons of things I wanted to say and questions to ask, then I would click on the comment box and my mind would go blank. Nothing, all the thoughts in my head, gone.  The few times I was able to make some kind of half way intelligent comment I worried I would sound stupid or arrogant, I worried I would be judged. I'm very happy to say if anyone found me stupid or arrogant they have never said so. If they judged me, they didn't show it.

Since I have started my own writing I feel more comfortable about commenting. It may be naive of me, but I don't worry about being judged anymore, mainly because I don't judge others. Also because I am making some lovely friends. People just like me, yet different. I find the differences interesting.

I am working through my issues and getting wonderful support from the friends I am making. It is like therapy for me, only much cheaper. The different opinions and points of view often stimulate me to see things I may not have seen, to consider things in a way I may have never considered.

I'm still working on learning the blogger program, any tech savvy people out there?  I could use all the help I can get, so any tips, hints, advice, simple instructions, feel free to share. I'd be grateful for the help.  I'm probably one of the least tech savvy people left, but I'm trying.  Feel free to browse through the blogroll, I'm still adding some of the blogs I follow, some I've added don't seem to be showing up and I'm not sure why. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

If you have any comments or questions on anything I post, don't be shy, speak up. I like the mental stimulation and you won't be judged here, even if  your opinion is diametrically opposite of mine. It's ok, you never know, what you have to say might be something I need to hear. If you're like me and get stage fright when you click on the comment box the only suggestion I have is say Hi, that always works.  If you would be comfortable commenting by email, go ahead, click on the little envelope and send an email. That's what I eventually did, reached out by email to another blogger, PK at http://elisnewbeginnings.blogspot.com/ She has been encouraging and supportive every step of the way. I am very fortunate to be able to call her a friend.   I can always use another friend, so go ahead, leave a comment, ask a question or just say Hi.