I've often heard it said that men are visual creatures. Musicman certainly is and that's something I use to my advantage. Why do ya think I prefer to wear pretty dresses or skirts? Cause they appeal to him more than sweatpants, of course. Though a nice snug pair of jeans will do the trick too.
One of the visual things Musicman enjoys is watching porn. It's something he has always done and something we do together. Way back at the beginning of our relationship, before the dawn of the internet, we used to rent them. I am not nearly as fond of watching porn as he is, but some of it I do enjoy, though I have a lot of stipulations about what I won't watch.
With the advent of D/s in our relationship, I have become quite bored with vanilla porn. It just doesn't do much for me. The problem for me is that most BDSM porn is too graphic for me. If I am cringing while watching then it's not a turn on for me. I've tried watching spanking videos, but there is a whole host of problems with that.
I find watching someone get spanked to be quite boring, especially if the spankee is not reacting at all. If the reaction is too intense, such as crying, it's a turn off for me. The DD type spankings, where the spanker is lecturing, just plain piss me off. It's impossible for me to get turned on when I am plotting how much I would beat the living crap out of the spanker as soon as I was allowed up. In case you didn't know, or haven't guessed, we are not a DD couple. There is no overtones of discipline in spankings for us, unless it's for some kind of infraction during playtime. Then it is a turn on for me.
Due to this inability to find videos that appeal to me, we haven't watched much porn lately. I think most of the ones we have watched have been of the threesome variety. Those haven't always been my cup of tea either, but that is one of Musicman's fantasies. He says he wants to see me with another woman, something I've never been interested in trying. He has been on a campaign to get me to change my mind about that and I admit, his tactics are working, a little. But, it's still not a huge turn on for me.
However, I have continued to try and find some videos that appeal to me and I did have some success. I found one with just the right tone for me. Not to hard, not to soft, no lecturing and amazing sex afterwards, yay. So, me being me, I emailed it to him. Many of you may already know that Musicman never checks his email, so it could sit there literally for years if I didn't tell him. I thought I could avoid that this time, cause he actually had been checking his email regularly waiting for some much needed information to come through. I figured he would check his email looking to see if the information had come through and find my email.
No such luck, what he was waiting on came in the regular snail mail the day I sent my email, so he didn't need to check his email. Drats, now I have to remember to tell him to check his email.
Ummm...honey, you may want to check your email.