Sunday, July 20, 2014

Tap, Tap, Tapping

Musicman and I don't fight with each other. Don't get me wrong, we disagree about things on occasion, but we learned long ago how to discuss those disagreements in a civilized and respectful manner. The days of screaming at each other, name calling and other hurtful things are in our distant past. It was something we worked very hard to achieve at the beginning of our relationship.

In the past few months we have over heard our daughter and her boyfriend fighting quite a bit. Yelling, screaming, name calling, the whole bit. It is awkward and painful to hear, especially since there isn't much we can do about it. I am more than willing to offer advice if she asks, but I refuse to get involved, unless of course things were to get physical. I refuse to get involved because I know if I do, she will blame me when this relationship ends.

Friday evening Musicman and I went out to visit some friends. Unbeknownst to us, our daughter and her boyfriend spent the evening fighting again. At some point he left and didn't tell our daughter where he was going. Musicman and myself were unaware of this until Saturday afternoon when she finally broke down and told us what happened, along with the fact that he still wasn't home and she had no idea where he was. He took the car, with the baby seat still in it and all their money.

She was scared senseless. She had called all his friends, whom all said they hadn't heard from him. She had called the local hospitals looking for him. I did my best to listen and offer advice, but inside I was seething. She was worried he had crashed the car and was lying in a ditch some where needing help. My thought; he better be in a ditch somewhere, cause if he isn't, I'm gonna put him in one and cover it with 6 feet of dirt.

Musicman left to take our daughter and the baby to her friends house for the night. When he got back home, I was doing a slow burn, plotting all the ways I was going to seriously hurt that man when he finally did turn up. I was sitting in my recliner, my foot, tap, tap, tapping away at top speed. A sure sign that I am beyond aggravated.

We talked about the situation for a short time, discussing the practical things we can do to help her. I'm fully onboard with those things, but my foot kept tapping away. All I really wanted to focus on was how many creative ways I could come up with to hurt that man for abandoning my daughter and granddaughter. Believe me when I tell you I can come up with quite few. The whole time my foot is tapping away, faster and faster and faster.

Finally Musicman comes over to where I'm sitting and places his feet around my furiously tapping foot until I stopped. Then he pulled me out of my chair and suggested we go upstairs. He pointed out that we where home alone and depending how this all works out we might get alone time again for awhile.

A lovely session with the leather paddle and many orgasms later and I felt much better. We enjoyed a peaceful evening together, which could be our last for awhile.

Our daughter did discover that her boyfriend is fine and staying with a friend, one who had previously lied to her and told her he wasn't. The coward still hasn't come back home and we have a lot to figure out before tomorrow morning when we are all scheduled to go back to work. Yes, I'm still running through, in my mind, all the many ways I am going to make him pay for being an irresponsible, untrustworthy, absolute asshole who is a very poor excuse for a man. He made a very serious mistake messing with my family, cause I don't take that lightly, neither does Musicman, though of the two of us, he needs to worry more about me than he does Musicman.


©Anna Marine Art

18 comments:

  1. I have an adult child living at home....not married.....but it is so hard to bite my tongue at times. Glad Musicman recognized the tapping foot syndrome and 'corrected' it.
    hugs abby

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    1. I used to think if I just survived the teenage years everything would be fine. Wow was I wrong.

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  2. I love the way your Musicman helped you recollect and feel better. Still a newer reader here, but it sounds like you guys have such a great relationship. Very much enjoying your posts.

    xx brat

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    1. Thanks, I think we have a pretty great relationship, but we've been together a long time and have put a lot of work into making it that way.

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  3. Musicman is perfect for you. Now me, I'm the calm type. Don't get mad often, I'm laid back and understanding. But if some SOB hurts my daughter, there may not be enough left to bury.

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    1. Musicman is perfect for me, I guess I'll keep him, lol. I'm usually a calm person too, though I am also very intense, if that makes any sense. I totally agree with not leaving enough left to bury if someone messes with your kids, I'd definitely do the same.

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  4. Hey Faerie...happy you have MM there to help you. I do know how you feel...I'm easy going until someone hurt my family or friends...then I will hurt them...badly! Sending lots of prayers and positive energy.

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Thanks Cat, if it weren't for Musicman these kids wouldn't exist. I went into our marriage not ever wanting kids, it was him and the love he gave me that made me want HIS kids. And yes, If someone messes with them, I will hurt them...badly.

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  5. So glad that you two were able to salvage the time you had together.

    I understand how hard it is to watch a daughter go through that. My oldest tried to hide that her and her boyfriend were having troubles but as he became more controlling, the fights got worse until there was no hiding it. Her dad and I are like you and musicman. We have long since stopped fighting in our relationship.

    The only advice I gave her was that it shouldn't be that hard to get along and if it is...she needed to decide what she was willing to live with. I also told her that no one could tell her what to do but that she would know when it was time to end it. It was a slow painful process for us all but eventually she was able to walk away. Of course, with a baby involved, I can certainly appreciate that it makes that choice even more difficult..

    Hugs to you all

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    1. That is the same advice I gave my daughter and I assured her that if she wanted to move on we would help her as much we can. I know it would be difficult with the baby, but I also believe that is more reason not to put up with this kind of behavior. She definitely should not be subjected to that kind of stress and negativity in her very young life.

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  6. Oh faerie, what a difficult position to be in.
    I hope she gets everything figured out soon for the benefit of your family.

    P.S good to see you posting again!

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    1. Thanks lil, in my heart I know this is not a good situation or relationship for my daughter, but she doesn't see it that way, yet. He needs to step up, or get the heck out. But that's just my opinion, which means very little to her.

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  7. Hi Faerie, oh gosh such a difficult situation. I'm glad MM was able to help you feel better. I hope your daughter works things.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. I know my daughter was extremely upset, but so was I. I find his behavior totally unacceptable and unforgivable. I don't care what the fight was about, you don't just run away and abandon your child and stress out her Mom.

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  8. Don't mess with mothers - your grand's father is about to find out just how true that statement is.

    Happy that you and MM were able to find some good amongst the angst.

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    1. Exactly, don't mess with mothers and yes he will learn that soon enough.

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  9. Such a difficult situation to be in. I am sorry. And yes, nobody but nobody can mess with a mother...then the calmest and most gentle can become ferocious lions willing to do anything to protect their young...

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    1. This situation has been incredibly hard to deal with, watching your kids be hurt and knowing there is nothing I can do about it is so frustrating.

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