Monday, January 6, 2014

In With a Bang

The New Year started off with a bang, just not the kind of bang we would have liked. We had the flu bug in our house for the last week. First Musicman and then myself , down for the count for the majority of a week, ugh. I haven't been that ill in a long time. There were a few days that I seriously just wanted to crawl out of my skin, find a quiet corner and curl up and die.

We were finally starting to feel human again by this past weekend. It also happened to be a weekend that our daughter and her family would be away for the weekend. Our son had to work Saturday night, so private time here we come.

It should have been epic, it should have been a time to enjoy all the things we are unable to do with a house full of people. Things had not worked out the way I had wished for at Christmas. Oh well, shit happens, ya move on. But that also means it's been about a month now since we had "epic".

Musicman is a hardcore pessimist. He has a bad habit of focusing on all the negative things going on in our lives. When he is stressed things degenerate to the point that everything coming out of his mouth sounds like a complaint. I've been aware of this habit of his for some time. Heck, when he gets on a roll, a deaf and blind person wouldn't be able to miss it. Most of the time I can ignore it, but not this time, this time it was getting on my very last nerve.

Things quickly spiraled into a major argument. We rarely do that, but I just couldn't handle it anymore. It's unfortunate, but there are times when I am able to stay calm and discuss things with him rationally and he just doesn't hear me. Sometimes it not until I am pushed to the point of  becoming emotional and start raising my voice, for him to actually begin to hear me.  I don't enjoy being that way, but the only alternative, as I see it at the time, is a brick upside his head. Not something I would recommend.

I definitely got his attention, I made my point and said things he really needed to hear. It didn't last long and ended when he grabbed handfuls of  my hair while cupping his hands on either side of my face, forcing me to look at him and simply stated that we needed to stop fighting about this. We did stop and he went to take a shower. He had spanking, among other things, on his mind and I knew it.

to be continued...

We are currently experiencing the brunt of the blizzard that is sweeping across our country. Even for us, one of the snowiest cities in the country, it is brutal.  I thought a snow faerie would be appropriate to protect all of us being effected by the weather. Stay safe and warm everyone.





18 comments:

  1. I don't envy your weather one little bit. Hope you get through it quickly and easily Brrrrrr.

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    1. This weather is just plain awful. Today it is -9 with wind chill of -35. Everything, except of course were Musicman and I work is closed.

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  2. I want to know the rest of the story! But first and foremost STAY WARM! We as so much colder than normal, but we're in the tropics of 3 degrees in the morning. Let us hear from you soon.

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    1. I will finish the story soon :) I've been lucky enough, until today, that I haven't had to go out in the weather. In just a few hours I will have to brave the cold and snow and go to work, ugh.

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  3. Hi Faerie, sorry the new year started with you both being poorly and for the argument. Glad Musicman put a stop to it quickly and I definitely want to know the rest of the story too!

    Take care and stay safe and warm!

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. The rest of the story is coming. I'll admit, I was quite impressed with the way he ended the argument. I hope he remembers that for future use.

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  4. Sorry the New Year did not start off to well for you all, i wasnt well over Christmas and its bad enough being unwell at anytime but on holidays, especially family times it always seem worse.

    Hope the up and coming months are better in all ways for you all.

    x

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    1. Sorry to hear you were not feeling well. Holidays really are the worst time for dealing with illness. I hope we both have a healthier year ahead of us.

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  5. Sorry to hear about the flu and the blizzard. Good luck for the future.

    FD

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    1. Maybe it's a blessing to have everything hit at once. Makes it easier to believe things are going to be better now.

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  6. Everyone has those times. We never enjoy them, but it happens.
    As to that freeze and cold...yes we have it too....brrrrrrrrrrrrr! Stay cozy!

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    1. It's not often that we argue, but it's never pleasant. This is some of the worst weather I've ever seen and other than as a very young child, I've always lived in places where severe winter weather is the norm.

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  7. Sorry you two have been through the flu and negativity...hope everything is better now. Yes...we are in the deep freeze also...11 below this morning with windchill of 30 below...brrrrrrrrr! Stay safe and warm!

    Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Things are better now Cat, thanks, We have almost the exact same weather as you. One thing I have learned over the years, there's not much difference between 0 degrees or 35 below. It's ALL f***king cold, lol.

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  8. hope you are feeling better...keep warm! Hugs

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    1. I am feeling much better. I'm also doing my very best bear impression...I'm hibernating whenever possible, lol.

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  9. I hope things got resolved and be careful.

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