On the Lighter Side

Today was supposed to be our wedding anniversary. It isn't, it's Flag Day.



You night wonder why that matters. Well it seems when Flag Day falls on a Saturday, as it did in 1986, the courthouse is closed on the previous Friday. If the courthouse is closed, you can't pick up your Marriage License. If you don't have a Marriage License you can't get married.  That's what happened with us, so we had to wait until Monday the 16th to get the license and get married. Quite a fiasco at the time, but now an amusing story. I also have to say that 6-16-86 has a much nicer flow then 6-14-86.

Musicman does not like to pick out gifts for me. He wants me to pick out my own gifts so that I get exactly what I want. At first this bothered me because that meant no surprises for me. It doesn't bother me one iota any more though. I am not a material girl and don't want something just for the sake of having it. I want something that will be special and meaningful to me.

I have a special fondness for unique jewelry. My jobs have always made wearing rings or bracelets difficult. I wear my wedding rings, which include an engagement ring, wedding band and anniversary ring on my toe. Yes I said my toe. I have worn a gold toe ring 24/7, 365 for over 30 years. I have already worn out 2 of them. When the last one wore out, I put my wedding rings on and have worn them on my toe for 7 years now. Appropriately, they are on the foot that has my wedding date as part of the tattoo.

A few weeks ago I found the perfect anniversary gift.



I love ankle chains and currently have 4 of them that I wear. One is a gold chain with a charm that is a park bench with 2 hearts on it. I bought it for myself the month before I met Musicman. Too me the hearts represent lovers. I also wear a silver ankle chain that has a fairy charm on it that Musicman bought me just a few months ago. The other 2 are turquoise beads, and turquoise and black onyx beads that I made several years ago.

The slave bells ankle chain shown above will be added to my ankle very soon. Musicman let me order it this morning and it should be here in about a week. I just love, love, love it. It has bells on it, lol. When I first showed it to Musicman he said, "it looks like you."

I also spotted this and fell in love. It is a chain maille corset necklace.



I currently wear 2 necklaces that were gifts over the years from Musicman. One is an emerald and diamond cross that I received several years ago. The other is a silver and glass, one of a kind pendant, that we found last year. We took a day trip for our anniversary to an art gallery about an hour from our home. I had always wanted to go to this particular gallery. They had tons of stuff from artisans all over the country. I was entranced by the display of pendants. When Musicman noticed me looking he came over and asked me if I wanted one. Yes, please. He asked me which one I wanted.  I couldn't make up my mind, so I narrowed it down to a few that I really liked and he made the final pick for me.

I never take my necklaces off, they click together when we are playing and that sound has now become something I strongly associate with Musicman and sex. I also touch my necklaces a lot, especially when I am stressed. They give me a physical connection to him even when he isn't with me.

Because of the fact that I do have to wear shoes on occasion I can't wear my ankle chains all the time. They come off in the fall and go back on in the spring. The necklace I will be able to wear all the time. It will be a great visual reminder for both of us of the new dynamic our relationship is taking on.

I owe a huge thanks to Kiki, who spotted the fairy doors on etsy and showed them to me. She also suggested I check out the BDSM stuff they had, that is where I found the anklet and necklace. I would also like to say thank you for all the wonderful comments on my last few posts, and to all the great emails I received offering support and advice. They really helped us both see things a little more clearly. If I didn't already feel so at home here in this community I do now.  Thank you, thank you, thank you.

I couln't pick just one picture today, they both seemed so appropriate, so I'm using both of them.


This is how my morning started.



As a result of all the lovely things that came after, I feel will go off to work feeling like this.