Sunday, October 30, 2011

What's a spanko?

Well, as I soon discovered I am.  Yeah, I like them. Alot.
So I did what people these days do. I cruised around the internet looking for info.  Not something I had done very much of. I spent all day on computers at work, the last thing I wanted to do was get on one at home.  Who has the time anyway? 
But I'm not working right now I have plenty of time and I have the interest, so cruise I did.

I have to say I was stunned with what I found, I knew what blogs were, sorta. I had never really seen one before, I was a blog virgin. LOL.

The most glaringly obvious thing to me was that here was a community of people, mostly women it seemed, who SUPPORTED one another. They cared about each other, they related in a positive way. The vast majority of people in my career field are women.  My experience has been that these women have a knife permanently installed in their hands poised at the back of anyone brave enough or stupid enough to turn it on them. It was often a lonely place for me to be. I've never felt the need to criticize and tear someone down to make myself feel better and don't understand people who do.

The next thing that really caught my attention was these women loved their husbands/partners and didn't apologize for that.  And, OMG, they liked sex too. Men bashing is a very popular past time in my real world and sex is just something to avoid.  So sad and so not me.  I've never really felt like I fit in, but that never bothered me.  Until I did feel like I fit in somewhere.  I was hooked.

Then came all these letters DD, D/s, M/s, BDSM.  I had heard about most of them, except DD. That was a new one for me. I was absolutely fascinated and overwhelmed.  So much to read, so much to learn, so much to process.  The one thing I did know was I wanted this, I just had to figure out what "this" was.  Therein lies the glitch in my system.  I way over think everything.  If you could kill someone with just the sheer volume of thoughts I would be the best weapon ever.  Now the upside of this is I usually do my best thinking while I'm cleaning. My home fairly sparkles right now, all my closests and drawers are organized, not a thing out of place. So you might guess I have it all figured out, NOT.   Have any closets you need cleaned? I'll be right over, ignore that odd burning smell, it's just me thinking.


  1. Just a test to see if its fixed.

  2. Yep, looks like it is is. Wonder how I did that

  3. Welcome to blogging, faerie!


    P.S. I'd love it if you'd follow my blog, too!

  4. Kitty,

    Thanks for stopping by. I've read your blog for awhile now. I'm still learning the blogger program, I'm working on adding the blogs I follow now, yours will be one of them.


    I'm packed and on my way, but I should warn you that when I run out of things to clean I bake. Blueberry buckle today. I may be a hazard to your diet.


    Thanks for stopping by, I find the mindset of the women in this community very refreshing. We can fret together and call it progress.

  5. Hi faerie, it doesn't take too long to find your way around, thankfully lol!

    Dee x

  6. welcome to blogland. I was in awe when I started my blog a little over a year ago, the number of people who read and encourage and cheer for me! Overthinking....I thought I was the queen of that..only I don't clean! abby

  7. I just wanted to say Welcome to Blogland! You are right, it is so refreshing to be among a bunch of like minded friends who want nothing but to understand our selves and lift each other up!!

    I'm glad you feel like you fit in.. and by the sounds of it, you think just like the rest of us.. and yes, over thinking stuff is a requirement! LOL

    Thank you for coming to my blog! I'm looking forward to seeing you again soon! ;o)

  8. Mikki,Dee, abby,

    Thanks for stopping by to visit. I've read all your blogs. Sometimes I thing I am going in circles learning this program, but it will come I'm sure. I started this blog with a clear intention of what I want to accomplish but no clear direction pf how to get there. At the very least I hope its interesting.
    Be well.

  9. Oh, my goodness! My husband says I "wayyyy overthink" everything. And when I do, I'm always cleaning and organizing! LOL!

    Welcome to Blogland!

  10. Rogue,

    The cleaning and organizing is just something automatic for me to do with my hands while I wander through my brain. Thanks for stopping by.

  11. I just read this today and I have to call you on the fact that you called ME an overthinker... I must be really bad.

    I am a spanko too. And I am glad you were here when I came looking for myself three to six months later.

    1. I never said I WASN'T an overthinker, lol. I'm glad I was here too :)

    2. Just wanted to let you know that I did check back for your answer and I was gratified to find one. An often overlooked nicetie. :) Hope you are well and have had some flogging this evening.

  12. Decided the best place to begin is at the beginning. I understand about the constant thinking. My mind is always actively thinking about something - sometimes it is dizzying. I wish I could say it inspired me to clean but alas it does not. :-) So feel free to stop by and clean my closets anyday.