tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post1310581776071376095..comments2024-03-04T22:23:29.046-05:00Comments on faerie learns to fly: Return to RealityFaerie Wingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10815932181165053031noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-5222077942308200552018-07-16T13:32:07.358-04:002018-07-16T13:32:07.358-04:00Thank you for all the wonderful advice. My conditi...Thank you for all the wonderful advice. My condition does not qualify for a stay in rehab. I'm following a plan that I have in place to stay away from my son for my own safety. I'm so sorry for what you went through with your dad. Alzheimers and dementia are such vicious diseases. T is continuing to fight for her mom with long distance support from me and she's doing an awesome job.Faeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069802122736604675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-28408882361020109622018-07-07T11:43:05.562-04:002018-07-07T11:43:05.562-04:00I am a lurker and only occasionally do i comment. ...I am a lurker and only occasionally do i comment. I am not a professional in any sense, but have been in a few situations recently and may be able to give some advice. As far as surgery and recouperation, have you looked into going to a rehab place for a couple weeks? I have sent my mom there many times after surgeries to get assistance and insurance usually pays at least 21 days. That will give you time to get stronger to handle the son situation. As for you sister in law, I lost my dad to Alzheimers and the process was painful with homes. I learned a few things, always go on a unscheduled visit to any home you are looking into. If they do not let you in with out an appointment, don't put your loved one there. Check on the other patients there, ask questions of their loved ones. Really do research. Unfortunately I learned this the hard way. I will pray that surgery goes well and that you can make strong decisions to protect yourself. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-13456540739306148062018-07-02T10:21:44.872-04:002018-07-02T10:21:44.872-04:00That's exactly what I'm doing, focusing on...That's exactly what I'm doing, focusing on myself. This surgery isn't going to be a walk in the park and I'm doing what I need to get through it. I've pretty much given up on Musicman changing his decision about our son. That's why I have a plan to get out. And that makes me very sad.Faeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069802122736604675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-55704366498156746712018-07-02T10:16:02.048-04:002018-07-02T10:16:02.048-04:00I'm so glad you said that, it's exactly ho...I'm so glad you said that, it's exactly how I feel, but Musicman doesn't feel that way and often makes me doubt my own feelings. Musicman isn't afraid of him, he's not afraid of anyone that I've ever seen. I don't know why he can't see that he's enabling, not helping. At this point I'll be the one making a decision, clearly Musicman has made his choice.Faeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069802122736604675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-52823803786524040112018-07-02T10:08:40.358-04:002018-07-02T10:08:40.358-04:00Hi Roz, it give me some comfort to have a plan , ...Hi Roz, it give me some comfort to have a plan , though it's quite upsetting to realize I need one. Things continue to move in the right direction for my SIL and her mom, though slower than either of us would like. I doubt my son will seek help until something drastic happens. He doesn't think he has a problem.Faeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069802122736604675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-32948656396384344922018-07-02T10:00:41.730-04:002018-07-02T10:00:41.730-04:00Thank you, I'm running a little low on hope th...Thank you, I'm running a little low on hope these days , but haven't given up totally.Faeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069802122736604675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-55583330946576571202018-07-02T09:58:37.941-04:002018-07-02T09:58:37.941-04:00Thank you morninstar, a hug from a friend always h...Thank you morninstar, a hug from a friend always helps ☺Faeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069802122736604675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-27776159054687368862018-07-02T09:56:32.164-04:002018-07-02T09:56:32.164-04:00Thank you Fondles, I agree that having my son in t...Thank you Fondles, I agree that having my son in the house during my recovery is not a good situation, unfortunately I have no other choice. I never thought I'd need a plan to get out of my own home, but that's exactly where I am. I'm so sorry to hear about your father. Dementia is an insidious disease and making the decision to place loved ones in a care facility is difficult. I wish you the best of luck with finding a place you are all comfortable with . Faeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069802122736604675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-40110097740831171182018-07-02T09:47:03.070-04:002018-07-02T09:47:03.070-04:00Thank you for the eloquent words of support Terpsi...Thank you for the eloquent words of support Terpsichore. Even with everything I'm going through physically I wish there was more I could do for my sister in law, her mom and my son. Faeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069802122736604675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-9698843510580957392018-07-02T09:41:11.047-04:002018-07-02T09:41:11.047-04:00Thank you for commenting Deena, you're always ...Thank you for commenting Deena, you're always welcome and the support and well wishes are appreciated.Faeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069802122736604675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-50363780043854513082018-06-29T10:25:47.625-04:002018-06-29T10:25:47.625-04:00Focus on yourself.
sorry to hear about MM's ...Focus on yourself. <br /><br />sorry to hear about MM's decision. Hope he wises up and hope his decision to back up his son against you doesn't end in a horrible outcome.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-50665749664045404642018-06-29T08:09:58.633-04:002018-06-29T08:09:58.633-04:00I think this all stinks and it's not right. Yo...I think this all stinks and it's not right. You choose your kids over your spouse when they are little, once they are grown it should flip the other way. Musicman is dead wrong. I wonder if he is afraid of him too. It may be time for MM to make his final decision about who he wishes to live with. Good luck with your surgery and recovery. Please let us know how everything goes.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-21037517239443147142018-06-29T07:46:02.573-04:002018-06-29T07:46:02.573-04:00Hi Faerie,
I'm so sorry for all you are deali...Hi Faerie,<br /><br />I'm so sorry for all you are dealing with right now. Sending positive thoughts your way and wishing you the best for the surgery and recovery.<br /><br />I hope the issues around the care of your Sil's Mom are quickly resolved and that your son seeks the support he needs. I'm glad too that you have a plan should you need it.<br /><br />Hugs <br />Roz Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-12158258973039075152018-06-29T03:29:33.634-04:002018-06-29T03:29:33.634-04:00Wishing you the best with the surgery. I hope thin...Wishing you the best with the surgery. I hope things get better there at home.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-60614354139272029622018-06-28T21:16:54.872-04:002018-06-28T21:16:54.872-04:00Just wanted to send you virtual hugs...for everyth...Just wanted to send you virtual hugs...for everything you are going through and facing.morningstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01500052225655763353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-17074250864004608502018-06-28T20:00:34.906-04:002018-06-28T20:00:34.906-04:00Oh so many things i want to say. Not the least is ...Oh so many things i want to say. Not the least is i’m relieved u have a plan. It doesnt sound like your home (with son there) is the best place for recuperation. Also, good vibes being sent for the surgery and recovery. <br /><br />As for SIL’s mum, i have a father with dementia and he is getting to the point where we are beginning to consider long term nursing home care. I worry about the quality of care as well, and as we arent rolling in dough unfortunately we cant afford the top of the line private ones. The state has subsidised facilities but some are better than others, and we dont always get the ones we pick. <br /><br />Im also glad to hear u have some experience in this area and managed to stay on to help her out in contacting the relevant people to handle the issue. <br /><br />Ok enough. Big hugs! Fondleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03538688586112598309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-47142444080592874012018-06-28T18:21:36.080-04:002018-06-28T18:21:36.080-04:00Thinking of you and sending positive healing energ...Thinking of you and sending positive healing energy as you go into surgery. May the healing process be smooth and quick. Not just for your shoulder but for your heart too. Please take care of yourself. I am glad you have a plan in place if you need it. I hope your sister in law's mother gets the help she deserves - no one deserves to treat anyone unkindly. And I hope your son chooses to get help to work through his issues - the way I see it, he has harmed others, maybe not physically, but emotional health is just as important. Many hugs and healing to you and all you care aboutTerpsichorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704408254742966076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-9309066773057916932018-06-28T16:50:13.825-04:002018-06-28T16:50:13.825-04:00My apologies if I'm overstepping, as I have be...My apologies if I'm overstepping, as I have been an avid reader of your blog though tend not to comment. Just want to offer some words of support and I'm sorry for all that has been going on, but so relieved to hear you have a plan if needed. Difficult times, for sure. Best to you with your surgery and everything else that is going on.Deenanoreply@blogger.com