tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post8208042238867929855..comments2024-03-04T22:23:29.046-05:00Comments on faerie learns to fly: Implement of ChangeFaerie Wingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10815932181165053031noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-25600476687879131112013-01-06T15:22:24.721-05:002013-01-06T15:22:24.721-05:00Wow...faerie....this post really touched me. I ha...Wow...faerie....this post really touched me. I have my own issues with belts, which I have fully discussed with BD, and truly believed that a belt would never be something that I would be able to look at in a good way. I have been thinking a lot about that myself, lately, and this post really strikes home for me. Hmm...we will see.<br /><br />I also want to say how proud I am of you right at this very moment! Allowing yourself to consider something new and terrifying, facing your absolutely RATIONAL fear, even going so far as to create something for good out of something you see as so evil....that is an amazing feat and it takes a hell of a woman to accomplish all of that! I am proud of you, and proud to be your friend!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14217320603111824362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-48664837291830030542013-01-05T19:16:10.036-05:002013-01-05T19:16:10.036-05:00Ummm...yes, and I'll claim it as senior moment...Ummm...yes, and I'll claim it as senior moment, lol :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-84210540835306253912013-01-05T18:05:00.786-05:002013-01-05T18:05:00.786-05:00It's the other Julia that's home again, I ...It's the other Julia that's home again, I never left. Are we confusing you as we already did Ana? LOL<br /><br />Hugs, JuliaJulia D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04084295751638383492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-8214249167494318632013-01-05T14:33:40.111-05:002013-01-05T14:33:40.111-05:00I don't easily accept the fear that comes from...I don't easily accept the fear that comes from my past. I feel like if I can't conquer it, they win. I'm determined NOT to let them win. Having said that, I never gave overcoming my fear of the belt much thought. It didn't limit me in anyway, nor did it feel like I was missing anything. Then that changed, and I am so glad it did.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-4934443351359302013-01-05T14:29:53.807-05:002013-01-05T14:29:53.807-05:00Heeheeheee...watch out...curiosity killed the cat ...Heeheeheee...watch out...curiosity killed the cat yanno!!!<br /><br />I was so surprised when I started wanting him to use the belt. I really NEVER thought that would happen. I also worried a bit about how Musicman would react. I have realized though, that in many cases, when it comes to choosing implements, he takes his cues from me and how I react :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-34847348502817948152013-01-05T12:33:23.099-05:002013-01-05T12:33:23.099-05:00Reading this put into words my feelings for a cane...Reading this put into words my feelings for a cane. I don't even like reading posts where canes are mentioned. Davey has promised never to use one on me, yet somewhere deep down, I know I could trust him with one... but if he did, would it remind me... so again I shy away. Maybe one day, when we are together for always, I will revisit this terror and do as you are thinking of doing... hope it works out well for you. xxxDaisychainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10327195200946342709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-51581079957624286232013-01-05T12:12:55.603-05:002013-01-05T12:12:55.603-05:00Hey :)
I honestly think that what better way to ge...Hey :)<br />I honestly think that what better way to get over a fear, than experience it with the one person you love and trust. I think this is another step forward for you faerie, just the fact that the fear has lessened slightly.<br />We do not use the belt. For different reasons than your own, I've never been all that much interested either. But, I occasionally 'wonder' about it but I'm not sure Mitch would be keen on using the belt as an implement.<br />I've been looking at the tawse/strap lately............ help lol!!! That curiosity thing is starting to rear its head again!!<br /><br />Dee xDeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04850836843301245812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-76041507712197802962013-01-05T11:45:34.065-05:002013-01-05T11:45:34.065-05:00BDSM and abuse are both taboo subjects in the &quo...BDSM and abuse are both taboo subjects in the "real world". Much like BDSM, no one in my real life, other then Musicman, knows about my past. People who have experienced it don't want to re-experience it by talking about it, and people who haven't experienced it, don't want to hear it. I don't necessarily enjoy talking about ym past either, but I accepted a long time ago that it is a part of who I am. That acceptance has gone a long way in helping face my demons.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-60058924998079681962013-01-05T11:41:10.178-05:002013-01-05T11:41:10.178-05:00I can't really talk about exploring my sexuali...I can't really talk about exploring my sexuality without talking about the past abuse. Whether I like it or not (I don't) it's a part of my story. I think the fact that I accept that goes a long way to helping me heal. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-36875543570136449592013-01-05T11:38:21.501-05:002013-01-05T11:38:21.501-05:00Hi Julia, welcome home :D I think you're right...Hi Julia, welcome home :D I think you're right, it is exactly what I need. I'll let ya know soon how it went.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-25908829490914086462013-01-05T11:37:21.795-05:002013-01-05T11:37:21.795-05:00After realizing that my feelings were changing, I ...After realizing that my feelings were changing, I had to find a way to at least try it. I'm so glad I did :Dfaerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-2201964843061493522013-01-05T11:35:59.389-05:002013-01-05T11:35:59.389-05:00Very well said Bleuame, I could not have gotten th...Very well said Bleuame, I could not have gotten this far without trusting him implicitely. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-21296385848043685792013-01-05T11:34:46.278-05:002013-01-05T11:34:46.278-05:00Oh, can't wait to hear how it turns out for yo...Oh, can't wait to hear how it turns out for you. Maybe some day I will get to the point of feeling that familiar tickle when he takes his belt off. I never thought I would get this far, so it now seems possible. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-15793117451791005272013-01-05T11:33:12.035-05:002013-01-05T11:33:12.035-05:00Hi nilla, eww enema's, don't think that wi...Hi nilla, eww enema's, don't think that will ever be in my repetoire either. So many people seem to love the belt, but I never really thought to try and get past the awful memories. I just figured I could live just fine without it. This happened quite by accident, or maybe, devine intervention, but whatever it was, I'm going for it.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-69783143847528691952013-01-05T11:29:31.995-05:002013-01-05T11:29:31.995-05:00It was not intentional on my part, but when the op...It was not intentional on my part, but when the opportunity arose, I couldn't help but grab it. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-77526204965122633072013-01-05T11:28:30.175-05:002013-01-05T11:28:30.175-05:00He definitely has had a lot to do with with me fin...He definitely has had a lot to do with with me finding the strength to face these things. Stay tuned, I'll let you know soon how it went :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-80204364930708605602013-01-05T11:26:50.768-05:002013-01-05T11:26:50.768-05:00I remember your post about trying the belt. I thou...I remember your post about trying the belt. I thought it was very brave of you to even try, still do :) I honestly never thought I would want to try, but as I said, it happened kinda by accident.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-59551247139697113012013-01-05T11:25:04.257-05:002013-01-05T11:25:04.257-05:00I have always been determined not to let the past ...I have always been determined not to let the past rule my life. If I did that, they still have power over me, they win. I won't let that happen, I have spent many years taking back that power, I win :Dfaerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-63651217812424952162013-01-05T09:24:27.151-05:002013-01-05T09:24:27.151-05:00Good for you, faerie! It's great to hear abou...Good for you, faerie! It's great to hear about progress in overcoming old trauma like this. I believe that's a benefit to BDSM that doesn't get discussed enough.Jakehttp://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-87153420530078246492013-01-05T08:54:15.656-05:002013-01-05T08:54:15.656-05:00It fascinates me to hear you tell the story of you...It fascinates me to hear you tell the story of your healing process. Thank you so much for sharing it. i'm delighted that you've found yourself another step to take.<br /><br />hugs,<br /><br />aishaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-13413453500574587262013-01-04T19:21:23.043-05:002013-01-04T19:21:23.043-05:00good for you!good for you!Mrs. Soft Bottomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02098617893060318097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-22719962191047665842013-01-04T18:19:14.566-05:002013-01-04T18:19:14.566-05:00This sounds so good and exactly as what you need, ...This sounds so good and exactly as what you need, Faerie. I hope you'll be able to try this out soon. Let us know how it works out for you.<br /><br />Hugs, JuliaJulia D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04084295751638383492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-65102601767567645152013-01-04T16:27:31.913-05:002013-01-04T16:27:31.913-05:00See I think by creatively altering the belt, you m...See I think by creatively altering the belt, you made it different already. You are the one who controlled, and pushed away those negative images and experiences away.<br />You guys know I am still on the novice learning curve so I just keep reading and watching.Minielle Labraunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16206283897752166320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-81749285339354710222013-01-04T13:53:02.931-05:002013-01-04T13:53:02.931-05:00((Faerie)): It really is about growing in trust an...((Faerie)): It really is about growing in trust and within our dynamics that old fears or limits become a thing of the past...it always works smoother when we go slow and have supportive loving arms to fall back into *hugs*Bleue D'âmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12945301989408243513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-68778240321137070162013-01-04T11:05:35.294-05:002013-01-04T11:05:35.294-05:00Good for you Faerie, conquering your demons.
I&...Good for you Faerie, conquering your demons. <br /><br />I'm one of those that love the sound of a belt whishing out of the loops, even watching him taking it off and putting it on gives me that familiar tickle. Tried it a couple of time but he says he can't get enough control. Your creative ability gave me an idea. I'll let you know how it turns out. Thanks.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.com