tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post8167794888521057420..comments2024-03-04T22:23:29.046-05:00Comments on faerie learns to fly: Thank You My Love...Faerie Wingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10815932181165053031noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-69372145535269900292012-05-20T12:10:41.198-04:002012-05-20T12:10:41.198-04:00Thanks for the support Ana, unfortunately I am fam...Thanks for the support Ana, unfortunately I am familiar with the one minute at a time approach having had to deal with this kind of thing many times before. At some point I will be forced to address the issue, I'm gonna wait till that point arrives and go from there :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-14768443240670317782012-05-19T17:32:23.929-04:002012-05-19T17:32:23.929-04:00Shock and denial are not bad things, at first. Le...Shock and denial are not bad things, at first. Let them protect you and get you through the next few steps. <br /><br />It will be what it will be, and you don't have to manage anything more than the next 5 minutes. Sending you lots of support and well-wishes.Anahttp://governingana.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-25529206791666415152012-05-16T08:46:36.207-04:002012-05-16T08:46:36.207-04:00Thanks for the recommendation on the movie, I'...Thanks for the recommendation on the movie, I'll have to keep it in mind for later.<br /><br />Right now I am actively NOT thinking about what to do about the rift between she and I. I'm just not ready yet to deal with it.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-90649410322625360242012-05-15T19:44:16.158-04:002012-05-15T19:44:16.158-04:00So sorry to hear this. :(
I just re-watched th...So sorry to hear this. :( <br /><br />I just re-watched the movie _Marvin's Room_, about an estranged sister coming to terms with her sister's terminal cancer. If you haven't seen it, it's very good. Maybe for later, after the shock has passed. <br /><br />Try not to stress yourself about not wanting regrets later. You might or might not, but you can't control that now. For now, just making it through one day is all you can ask sometimes. Hugs.Anahttp://governingana.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-14237707878110760422012-05-15T11:28:58.892-04:002012-05-15T11:28:58.892-04:00I'm still working on figuring out what I want,...I'm still working on figuring out what I want, but the well wishes are appreciated :) Thank you.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-86804483377806280362012-05-15T10:42:54.021-04:002012-05-15T10:42:54.021-04:00Tough news I am sure, probably a lot of different ...Tough news I am sure, probably a lot of different emotions surrounding that. I hope you are able to reconnect with her if it is something that you want.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-23615775044482934722012-05-14T18:53:23.059-04:002012-05-14T18:53:23.059-04:00Oh Daisy, this made me want to cry. I so appreciat...Oh Daisy, this made me want to cry. I so appreciate you putting me on your list, I will take all the help I can get :)<br /><br />Your story with your mother sounds a lot like mine. This is actually the 3rd time since I was a teenager we have been estranged. This last time comes after 10 years of me being her primary caretaker after my father passed. I think my journey with her will be me not getting too involved also. She is a very bitter woman who likes to create drama between her children and is not above lying to cause it. I really don't want to be put myself back in that situation, but I don't want regrets once she is gone either.<br /><br />You are right about Musicman knowing me so well, he will help me figure it all out.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-40204863751885088822012-05-14T17:35:55.661-04:002012-05-14T17:35:55.661-04:00Oh, Faerie...I am so sorry. I cared for my grandpa...Oh, Faerie...I am so sorry. I cared for my grandparents, and my father, for many years, but then became estranged from my mother. For 15 years.... but recently she has realised she made a big mistake, and although she won't apologise or acknowledge it to ME, she doesn't need to. We are now embarking on a strange journey where I won't get too involved for fear of further hurtful rejection, but I visit her a couple times a month and take her out to dinner occasionally. She is lonely and proud. But, she is my mum. As others have said, do what you can to heal the rift. It's shocking news like this that removes barriers. I am glad you have the wisdom of Musicman, who knows you (probably better than you know yourself!) and will support you through these difficult times.<br />I have added you to my prayer list. ( I have to make a prayer list to ensure I don't forget any person/situation I have promised to pray for!) xxxxDaisychainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10327195200946342709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-63551028361233035532012-05-14T15:00:38.013-04:002012-05-14T15:00:38.013-04:00Thank you Grace, it was a bit disorienting to get ...Thank you Grace, it was a bit disorienting to get the news about my Mother. Musicman really stepped in and helped me get my equilibrium back.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-56948433792409757512012-05-14T14:11:28.711-04:002012-05-14T14:11:28.711-04:00I'm sorry about your mom, Faerie. I hope you&#...I'm sorry about your mom, Faerie. I hope you're able to reconnect with her. I'm glad MM was by your side and I think your thanks to him was very sweet. (((hugs)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-7015234944195086212012-05-14T11:01:53.782-04:002012-05-14T11:01:53.782-04:00Thank you for the lovely words Belle. Your right, ...Thank you for the lovely words Belle. Your right, some people never learn to love, I suspect that is the case with my Mother.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-1190332436039441882012-05-14T10:59:06.328-04:002012-05-14T10:59:06.328-04:00It isn't going to be easy to face this ordeal,...It isn't going to be easy to face this ordeal, but I will be able to lean on him as much as I need too. Thanks for the kind words :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-56825232812382483252012-05-14T10:57:31.318-04:002012-05-14T10:57:31.318-04:00Thank you Ronnie, we have tough times ahead, but h...Thank you Ronnie, we have tough times ahead, but he will be there for me.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-72697495742982588452012-05-14T10:56:33.535-04:002012-05-14T10:56:33.535-04:00Great advice abby, I just may read it again and ag...Great advice abby, I just may read it again and again :) Not exactly how I thought Mother's day weekend would go, but that's life.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-83020963159505536382012-05-14T10:55:24.686-04:002012-05-14T10:55:24.686-04:00Thanks SNP, he and I have faced this before, we ha...Thanks SNP, he and I have faced this before, we have already lost both of his parents and my father. It won't be easy, but he will hold tight and not let me fall.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-63183082369825392142012-05-14T10:52:10.791-04:002012-05-14T10:52:10.791-04:00Thank you Jake, the kindness and support of friend...Thank you Jake, the kindness and support of friends always helps.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-13009019497446236322012-05-14T10:51:36.526-04:002012-05-14T10:51:36.526-04:00I'm not even sure what all emotions I'm fe...I'm not even sure what all emotions I'm feeling right now. The estrangement between us just complicates the whole situation. Musicman has a way of cutting to the important things and he isn't afraid to point them out to me. I need that now.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-40721167123782533712012-05-14T10:49:34.963-04:002012-05-14T10:49:34.963-04:00Thank you June, this is hitting me hard and he is ...Thank you June, this is hitting me hard and he is really stepping up and holding me close. I know we will get through it, but it always helps to have him remind me of that.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-28831857040187204462012-05-14T10:47:49.542-04:002012-05-14T10:47:49.542-04:00He will be there for me, and I more grateful then ...He will be there for me, and I more grateful then I can say to have that kind of support.<br /><br />My Mother's decision isn't a surprise, and if things were better between us it wouldn't be so difficult for me. I'm sure I will figure out the best way to handle things with Musicman's help.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-43690292665214936502012-05-14T10:45:36.721-04:002012-05-14T10:45:36.721-04:00Thanks Rogue, I have a feeling by the time this is...Thanks Rogue, I have a feeling by the time this is all played out he is going to have to physically peel me off him. <br /><br />I'm not at all surprised by my Mother's decision, we both believe in quality of life over quantity of life. Doesn't necessarilly make it easier to face though.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-40651926033381822312012-05-14T10:42:52.990-04:002012-05-14T10:42:52.990-04:00I've always tried to live my life without regr...I've always tried to live my life without regrets. I think it is going to be tough to figure this one out, but I will. There are so many times I would have not made it if it hadn't been for Musicman. This too will be one of those times. I'm the luckiest girl in the world to have found him :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-22329809600501844552012-05-14T10:41:39.449-04:002012-05-14T10:41:39.449-04:00My heart goes out to you and your family. Our pare...My heart goes out to you and your family. Our parents are our parents whether they are imperfect or not. Sometimes we can't stand them, but still we want to love them. I believe many who have difficulty loving, still wish they could love their children more. Some of them never learned how. God Bless You and Everyone who is important to you, Belle L.Belle Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10222752720181960143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-12210495632741611742012-05-14T10:40:31.223-04:002012-05-14T10:40:31.223-04:00Thanks PK, this is definitely a case of I wouldn&#...Thanks PK, this is definitely a case of I wouldn't make it through without him. My Mother and I have always had a very complicated relationship and I just don't know what to do yet. Musicman will help me figure it out, he isn't as emotionally involved as I am.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-35749890015703038462012-05-14T10:37:45.880-04:002012-05-14T10:37:45.880-04:00Unfortunately, we've faced this before, 3 time...Unfortunately, we've faced this before, 3 times to be exact. My Mother is the last of our parents left. I have been experiencing a myriad of emotions and Musicman has been very tuned about what I need right now. <br /><br />I'm sorry to hear about your Father, that had to be so difficult for you.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-5333958706915959442012-05-14T10:35:02.154-04:002012-05-14T10:35:02.154-04:00Thank you poured out, I really appreciate it :)Thank you poured out, I really appreciate it :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.com