tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post6318391075962513468..comments2024-03-04T22:23:29.046-05:00Comments on faerie learns to fly: A Giant Misstep...or is it?Faerie Wingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10815932181165053031noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-46972043307125455712012-07-23T16:29:38.684-04:002012-07-23T16:29:38.684-04:00Ya know, I never thought of it that way before. It...Ya know, I never thought of it that way before. It makes a lot of sense though, and I think it may really help me to think of it that way. Thanks :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-46630304066960412022012-07-23T03:18:19.174-04:002012-07-23T03:18:19.174-04:00Try flipping your perspective. If he works the wa...Try flipping your perspective. If he works the way I do, or similarly, there is never "just" doing things for you. There is reassuring himself that he is a good partner and a good provider by doing things you like or need. It's for him as much as it is for you, even if he never quite says it that way.<br /><br />Stay SINful<br />Mr. APAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-9001705466520737912012-07-22T17:01:56.969-04:002012-07-22T17:01:56.969-04:00I'm not so sure about doing an amazing job, bu...I'm not so sure about doing an amazing job, but I agree with the beautiful relationship :) Thank you.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-36297202068498001172012-07-22T17:00:59.449-04:002012-07-22T17:00:59.449-04:00Yes, I know what he did right and no I definitely ...Yes, I know what he did right and no I definitely would not have gone through the cycle so quickly if he had let me walk away.<br /><br />I have a feeling Musicman does feel very much that way. The only problem is when I feel like he is just doing things for me, it becomes a problem. Being an empath sucks sometimes.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-90073565693153803642012-07-22T09:32:55.412-04:002012-07-22T09:32:55.412-04:00I'm so glad and impressed that you were able t...I'm so glad and impressed that you were able to communicate through the hiccup. Love and forgive yourself-- you are doing an amazing job working at a beautiful relationship!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04842027321593278610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-7707786971545644852012-07-22T04:23:08.265-04:002012-07-22T04:23:08.265-04:00You know what he did right there? He kept you clo...You know what he did right there? He kept you close and helped you work through it. Would you have finished your cycle in 10 minutes if he had let you walk away? Somehow I don't think so. You BOTH did good.<br /><br />I always feel like I owe something to Mrs. AP when a mistake I make leads to her feeling down, angry, or out of sorts. I make it my responsibility to make and keep her happy, and when I fail in that task I feel like I need to work harder to re-balance things in her favor. I wouldn't be surprised if Musicman feels similarly. I'm glad you two worked it through.<br /><br />Stay SINful<br />Mr. APAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-54695093843759076682012-07-21T19:05:45.071-04:002012-07-21T19:05:45.071-04:00We all have moments that aren't that stellar, ...We all have moments that aren't that stellar, believe me. And while it was not perhaps the most submissive way to express it - at least you expressed it - you'd been holding it in, so that's progress! <br /><br />So next time, you'll know that he is listening, and that he wants to hear it all,and understand,and you can start working on ways to say it constructively.<br /><br />But honestly, getting it off your chest is HUGE! And not being stuck in a funk is fabulous! Don't beat yourself up. Recognize the progress & give yourself a little credit. I bet if you ask him, he is :)Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-58196411323467802322012-07-21T19:03:52.126-04:002012-07-21T19:03:52.126-04:00Thanks Grace, I am proud of myself. It is definite...Thanks Grace, I am proud of myself. It is definitely better then how I have handled it in the past. I have been working on improving in this area for a long time and it seems like the hard work is paying off, at least this time anyway. Today was good, I'm trying not to anticipate too much, cause that can be problematic too.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-32366264514586818072012-07-21T19:01:27.830-04:002012-07-21T19:01:27.830-04:00Kitty, so nice to have you back :) I surprised mys...Kitty, so nice to have you back :) I surprised myself that it all went that quickly. Guess all the hard work I've been doing to alleviate these episodes is really working.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-52927701742462460932012-07-21T18:57:13.060-04:002012-07-21T18:57:13.060-04:00While of course you'd rather it hadn't hap...While of course you'd rather it hadn't happened at all, it sounds like you handled it a lot better than in the past. You should be proud of yourself! I hope your day today has been a good one and MM takes good care of you the rest of the weekend. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-37711762445988792642012-07-21T18:49:00.499-04:002012-07-21T18:49:00.499-04:00Hi faerie,
Good luck with your new job. And, I t...Hi faerie,<br /><br />Good luck with your new job. And, I think it's amazing it only took you 10 minutes to snap out of your downward spiral. Yeah you!!!<br /><br />Love,<br />KittyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-12660148180994741182012-07-21T17:51:32.925-04:002012-07-21T17:51:32.925-04:00It was a good thing, I'm making progress :)It was a good thing, I'm making progress :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-27619660038912862472012-07-21T17:44:30.101-04:002012-07-21T17:44:30.101-04:00Thats goodthat you recognized it, ended it. have a...Thats goodthat you recognized it, ended it. have a good weekend my friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-55782101017942216632012-07-21T17:25:03.529-04:002012-07-21T17:25:03.529-04:00It's a record for me, that I know. Makes all t...It's a record for me, that I know. Makes all the hard work trying to figure it out totally worth it. I'm optimistic too, but then again, I'm a die hard optimist about everything, lol.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-83633389342435917112012-07-21T17:23:27.444-04:002012-07-21T17:23:27.444-04:00I was so surprised that it happened that way, happ...I was so surprised that it happened that way, happily surprised. Gives me hope that eventually I won't react that way at all. The chores are done, I'm all shaved, showered and prettied up, let the fun begin :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-76013753454124284052012-07-21T17:20:43.669-04:002012-07-21T17:20:43.669-04:00I can always tell when Musicman is especially tire...I can always tell when Musicman is especially tired, the little gestures that I love so much just disappear. <br /><br />I was really proud of how well I handled it this time, it been a long road getting to this point, but I did it :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-50595411320452591152012-07-21T17:15:39.557-04:002012-07-21T17:15:39.557-04:00Yeah I started out at a week or more and slowly ha...Yeah I started out at a week or more and slowly have been chewing away at it. Honestly, I surprised myself that it went that quick this time. Your right too, perfect would become boring pretty quick :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-90988236544607572472012-07-21T17:12:32.303-04:002012-07-21T17:12:32.303-04:00It was just a hiccup and the day has gone pretty w...It was just a hiccup and the day has gone pretty well. It has taken me months to get these episodes under control, so while not gone, 10 minutes is a massive improvement. The chores are done and we are good.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-14648128726749484912012-07-21T17:09:15.961-04:002012-07-21T17:09:15.961-04:00No apologies necessary my friend, Ward should be y...No apologies necessary my friend, Ward should be your priority :)<br /><br />How about one of the things that came out in my rants last night was, "it's all about communication." Unfortunately I followed that with, "and you suck at it right now." Not my most stellar moment. <br /><br />While I wasn't happy with what happened, I do feel like I am making huge strides in how I'm handling it. I'm very happy about that. The day has gone pretty well, I'm not feeling real submissive, but I'm not stuck in a funk :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-80077976122895638532012-07-21T17:04:41.218-04:002012-07-21T17:04:41.218-04:00It does feel like a giant leap forward. I am the t...It does feel like a giant leap forward. I am the type that when given lemons will make lemonade, and probably brownies or cookies to go with it :)<br /><br />The chores are done, with plenty of time left to play.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-69932545611469495232012-07-21T17:03:06.321-04:002012-07-21T17:03:06.321-04:00Thanks SNP, everythings okay, and still lots of we...Thanks SNP, everythings okay, and still lots of weekend left :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-65504246267473283232012-07-21T17:02:33.943-04:002012-07-21T17:02:33.943-04:00Ya know what they say, shit happens :) It did turn...Ya know what they say, shit happens :) It did turn out better then it has in the past, so that's good.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-62744635295525191482012-07-21T17:00:57.230-04:002012-07-21T17:00:57.230-04:00I wish I could say that, but then I would be faced...I wish I could say that, but then I would be faced with going to work naked Monday. I think they already have enough to say about the "new girl," lol. <br /><br />We work pretty well together at the chores and they are mostly done now :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-38540620883336830422012-07-21T16:59:24.409-04:002012-07-21T16:59:24.409-04:00Thanks Susie, it has taken a long time to get to t...Thanks Susie, it has taken a long time to get to this point, but I feel like it is something to be proud of.<br /><br />I know that the outcome is not what Musicman intended and though I'm trying not to anticipate anything I think it will all be good.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-48231344644374271042012-07-21T15:24:54.975-04:002012-07-21T15:24:54.975-04:00Only 10 minutes? That must be a record time.
And a...Only 10 minutes? That must be a record time.<br />And a whole weekend for refining the connection.<br />I'm optimistic about the outcome.Bashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244518003342672738noreply@blogger.com