tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post470839613624256822..comments2024-03-04T22:23:29.046-05:00Comments on faerie learns to fly: The Storm at the End of a Perfect Day.Faerie Wingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10815932181165053031noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-35021585459315673702013-10-16T23:53:57.042-04:002013-10-16T23:53:57.042-04:00Oh man am I sorry! Awful, awful! Really there isn&...Oh man am I sorry! Awful, awful! Really there isn't much I can say to make you feel better about the ugliness of it all. I will say that mental illness and violence isn't easy to explain. What is important is she get help. Your son needs to stay away for a while. That may not happen, and I guess you just hope.Minielle Labraunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16206283897752166320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-25588102551095909682013-10-12T17:32:48.093-04:002013-10-12T17:32:48.093-04:00Thank you for the kind words Bleuame. I definitely...Thank you for the kind words Bleuame. I definitely did not think she would ever do something like this. I knew she had rage issues, but I underestimated how bad things could get.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-91700914163272356272013-10-11T11:16:50.427-04:002013-10-11T11:16:50.427-04:00Faerie,
Warmest thoughts to you and yours.
The...Faerie, <br /><br />Warmest thoughts to you and yours. <br /> There is nothing you could have done. <br />You didn't invite this in...its one thing to look at a troubled, hurt girl and see the pain in her...and a huge, jump to think "she's going to be violent."<br /> Hugs, <br />BleueBleue D'âmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12945301989408243513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-46516523467864641152013-10-09T18:12:07.661-04:002013-10-09T18:12:07.661-04:00I wish I had something more to write about than ju...I wish I had something more to write about than just a rant, but that isn't the case at the moment. It does help immensely to have a safe place to go to vent. I've often thought that someone must have hurt this girl in some way to cause this kind of rage in her. I hope my son stays strong too, he deserves so much more from a partner than this kind of behavior. The grandbaby is doing great and is such a pleasure to have around. Yes it has almost totally eliminated any privacy and time to play, but still such a pleasure.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-90217243471723968932013-10-08T21:23:12.039-04:002013-10-08T21:23:12.039-04:00At least you had a place to come here to rant. Let...At least you had a place to come here to rant. Let's hope that he stays strong and never lets her back in his life. She obviously needs a lot of help. I wonder if she was the victim of abuse when she was younger to have such rage issues. And let's hope this is a learning experience for him and he finds a young woman he can be safe with. And how's the grandbaby. <br /><br />And good luck. You will need it.<br /><br />FD Florida Domhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-55590164939139998362013-10-08T14:20:45.307-04:002013-10-08T14:20:45.307-04:00Thank you for sharing your thoughts Susan. Somethi...Thank you for sharing your thoughts Susan. Something like this is painful for anyone, but as someone who fought so hard to survive, overcome and end the cycle of abuse, it seems to hit even harder. It must be terribly difficult for you to see what is going on with your grandkids and feel powerless to stop it. Currently, my son is saying he is done with this young woman and that he is pressing charges against her. Unfortunately it will take time for it to move through the legal system and that could give him enough time to change his mind. I have no idea what I will do if he does since there really isn't much I can do. That scares me quite a bit. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-83812256056656486662013-10-08T14:13:08.641-04:002013-10-08T14:13:08.641-04:00Thanks Terps, needless to say, this has been a nig...Thanks Terps, needless to say, this has been a nightmare for all of us. I'm just so thankful that the wound was minor and only needed some stitches to mend.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-59586494665135552982013-10-08T14:11:49.798-04:002013-10-08T14:11:49.798-04:00Thank you for delurking and sharing your thoughts....Thank you for delurking and sharing your thoughts. I agree with everything you said 110% and I've said as much to my son. Right now he is in agreement that this is way past the point of acceptable and that it is the end. Now, I just pray that in time he doesn't change his mind.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-10866939703124527882013-10-08T14:09:38.669-04:002013-10-08T14:09:38.669-04:00My son is doing okay, he did get stitches and has ...My son is doing okay, he did get stitches and has some pain, but other than that he is okay physically. My son is pressing charges in the hopes that it will force her to get some help. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-68855273660471833472013-10-08T14:08:17.216-04:002013-10-08T14:08:17.216-04:00I am aware that men can be victims of domestic abu...I am aware that men can be victims of domestic abuse, I just never, ever thought it would happen to my son. I knew about her violent temper, yet I still didn't see this coming. <br /><br />Thanks for the tip about the cold salted water. I do still have clothes to try and get the blood out of. I am gonna try it and hope I can salvage them.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-35749082626589286272013-10-08T14:05:35.364-04:002013-10-08T14:05:35.364-04:00I have been watching for the postpartum crazies, o...I have been watching for the postpartum crazies, only in my daughter. She is the one that just had a baby a month ago. This girl does not have any children, thank goodness since she has these rage issues. <br /><br />I did use peroxide on the carpet, worked like a charm to get the blood out. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-53846093713696732022013-10-08T14:02:47.330-04:002013-10-08T14:02:47.330-04:00I've know she had these rage issues for quite ...I've know she had these rage issues for quite some time, however, I never imagined that it cold or would get this bad. I'm so pissed at her, yet I also feel very bad for her. I am praying that she will finally get the help she needs, obviously she needs more help than we can give her.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-70218906190208730152013-10-08T14:00:25.384-04:002013-10-08T14:00:25.384-04:00Thanks for the support tori. I know we will contin...Thanks for the support tori. I know we will continue to deal with the repercussions of this for awhile. It could take many months for the case to go through the legal process. I'm not looking forward to that, at all.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-22809407233128122662013-10-08T13:58:20.489-04:002013-10-08T13:58:20.489-04:00abby, you've been through a lot yourself latel...abby, you've been through a lot yourself lately, feeling sorry for yourself seems normal to me. I just can't believe this happened. I would love to run away and not deal with any of it. Of course, that's not a valid option.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-61815757792502321742013-10-08T13:55:19.934-04:002013-10-08T13:55:19.934-04:00My son is doing okay, some stitches and some resid...My son is doing okay, some stitches and some residual pain, but okay. I'm just thankful she didn't hit any vital organs or arteries. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-28498267157494272512013-10-08T13:53:45.572-04:002013-10-08T13:53:45.572-04:00sunnygirl, my life is a train wreck at the moment....sunnygirl, my life is a train wreck at the moment. Not sure why or how that has happened, but it has. Right now, my son is in agreement that he can no longer be with her. He has agreed to press charges against her with the hope that she will get the help she needs. This could take months to move through the legal system though so I do know he could change his mind. I'm praying that doesn't happen.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-1337694546418129272013-10-08T13:50:03.398-04:002013-10-08T13:50:03.398-04:00Thanks for the kind words Cygnet. I am doing my be...Thanks for the kind words Cygnet. I am doing my best to help him through this and make him see that being with her is no longer an option. So far, he is in agreement with me about that.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-30920285551706049442013-10-08T13:48:00.773-04:002013-10-08T13:48:00.773-04:00Oh Elis, I so wish I had something fun and light t...Oh Elis, I so wish I had something fun and light to write about, but life just hasn't had much fun or lightness in it recently. I do know there is a chance he will forgive her and take her back, believe me, I am strongly pushing for that not to happen.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-43498963567944745032013-10-08T13:45:26.203-04:002013-10-08T13:45:26.203-04:00Thank you Moxi, the whole situation is a nightmare...Thank you Moxi, the whole situation is a nightmare. I wish I could wake up.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-12442196622406244242013-10-08T12:49:18.155-04:002013-10-08T12:49:18.155-04:00I am only an occasional reader, but I would like t...I am only an occasional reader, but I would like to say I am so sorry you are going through this. It is good the girlfriend is in jail. This is where she belongs. And I will echo the other Anonymous when I say I hope your son ends this relationship permanently and gets an order for protection.<br /><br />I was abused as a child by my raging mother and was completely blindsided when my older son married a very angry woman. She has two kids from her previous marriage and they have a biological child together, and the way my grandkids are treated cannot be looked at anything other than abusive. That part of your story really resonated with me; how we do everything we can think of to make sure our own sad story is not repeated. Then we see it played out in front of our eyes. So painful. <br /><br />You ask if you invited this, and I can relate to that as well. Take care.<br /><br />SusanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-67740976207067318962013-10-08T09:30:52.796-04:002013-10-08T09:30:52.796-04:00Oh, Faerie, I am so sorry that this happened to yo...Oh, Faerie, I am so sorry that this happened to your family. Sending as much positive energy, hugs, and healing that I can. Much love, TerpsTerpsichorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704408254742966076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-9193651670889790592013-10-08T08:45:18.641-04:002013-10-08T08:45:18.641-04:00I am a regular lurker and felt I had to add my two...I am a regular lurker and felt I had to add my two cents. Your son was lucky. This needs to be the end of that relationship even if she gets the help she needs .Anyone who could knowingly stab someone they care deeply about is unstable and to put it bluntly, should not be your problem. The female from a pair of high school sweethearts was just sentenced to fifteen years for stabbing her boyfriend during an argument- She too stabbed him. She first said she was abused which was disputed credibly and then said he fell on the knife. Either way in the end, the boyfriend lost his life and two families were forever changed. I would hate to think that could happen in anyone else's family. Just something to think about. Best of luck and I hope he recovers with no lasting damage. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-65320391230855012712013-10-08T00:11:43.438-04:002013-10-08T00:11:43.438-04:00Oh my hell!!! I hope your son escaped with only a...Oh my hell!!! I hope your son escaped with only a few stitches. And I hope she gets the help she obviously needs.<br /><br />Hugs and prayers for all of you.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04798113123590131798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-23058693014639787632013-10-07T18:47:54.534-04:002013-10-07T18:47:54.534-04:00oh gosh, how awful. ((((hugs)))) and love to you a...oh gosh, how awful. ((((hugs)))) and love to you all.<br />that the myth that men cannot and aren't victims of domestic abuse persists, is one of my soap boxes.<br />(By the way, for fabrics, soaking in cold (must be cold) salted water removes blood like magic.)mamacrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16484565827023574347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-57624649437810872682013-10-07T14:47:04.830-04:002013-10-07T14:47:04.830-04:00Hugs faerie!! My gosh, I don't even know what...Hugs faerie!! My gosh, I don't even know what to say. Rant away, it always makes things a little but more tolerable. <br /><br />It is NOT an excuse so please don't think I'm saying it's okay... But it's possible she's got some post-partum crazies going on that's driven her to lash out in a way she wouldn't have done otherwise. <br /><br />Prayers for your family and hers as well. <br /><br />PS - ordinary peroxide is the best blood stain remover, hands down. It's tough once it's dry though but may be of help to you. I had a horrific clean up job after my grandaddy passed away :-(ashebridgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08573787332690062041noreply@blogger.com