tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post4142093166725791903..comments2024-03-04T22:23:29.046-05:00Comments on faerie learns to fly: Women, Sex and the MediaFaerie Wingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10815932181165053031noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-61407438817800828772013-05-03T08:35:42.441-04:002013-05-03T08:35:42.441-04:00I suppose compared to the way it was in generation...I suppose compared to the way it was in generations past it is slowly changing. The key word there would be slowly and that os problematic for me.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-10350487294058499012013-05-03T08:34:18.013-04:002013-05-03T08:34:18.013-04:00It is disturbing to see young kids these days bein...It is disturbing to see young kids these days being bombarded with all the negative talk about sex, while also being bombarded with impossible to achieve images of perfection. No wonder they are confused about what a healthy body image and relationship look like. I am at least grateful that my kids grew up seeing both in their own home, even if it didn't erase all the stigma that society seems to impose.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-47845257267131105612013-05-03T08:30:49.334-04:002013-05-03T08:30:49.334-04:00Very true, those folks do not read here, maybe the...Very true, those folks do not read here, maybe they shouls, they might learn something, lol. <br /><br />I sometimes wish I could share blogs like this one with my kids, so they would have a better understanding of what I have been trying to teach them. I never will, but I sometimes wonder if I did what they would take from it.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-79659680519650069232013-05-03T08:28:15.540-04:002013-05-03T08:28:15.540-04:00That is what I have worked hard to impart to both ...That is what I have worked hard to impart to both my kids, that sex within a loving relationship is good, necessary even. But, I'm just one voice in a world that tells them otherwise and that bothers me. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-19184450267803455302013-05-03T08:26:21.769-04:002013-05-03T08:26:21.769-04:00The problem I have is that when I look around the ...The problem I have is that when I look around the real world I can't find other mother's like me. I don't know why, but even the young women I know have the outlook that sex is something to be tolerated and actively avoided at all costs. I have a bad habit of telling them if they aren't ennjoying it, someone must be doing something wrong, lol. That always gets me horrified looks and usually end the conversation quickly.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-40635998908891337622013-05-03T08:23:23.595-04:002013-05-03T08:23:23.595-04:00Oh, don't even get me started on women's b...Oh, don't even get me started on women's body image and the media. They do such a huge disservice to women with the impossible ideals they promote. It's very toxic for young women who buy into the idea that if they are not a perfect size zero they aren't good enough. It's a battle I've fought for my own daughter for many years. faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-56259620677527743892013-05-03T08:19:49.210-04:002013-05-03T08:19:49.210-04:00I'm sure part of the problem is that I am over...I'm sure part of the problem is that I am overly sensitive to stuff like this. I have taken a lot of ridicule over the years for voicing the fact that I like sex. That horrifies most of the women I know, which horrifies me, lol.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-80591328880724938482013-05-02T13:54:44.552-04:002013-05-02T13:54:44.552-04:00It is true this is the way society is, it isn'...It is true this is the way society is, it isn't right and hopefully in the future it will change.Tiffanyhttp://trazuresdarkcove.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-73795691216699819262013-05-02T05:03:01.619-04:002013-05-02T05:03:01.619-04:00The word sex itself does not help to change perspe...The word sex itself does not help to change perspectives, it can mean a simple physical act or joyous love-making, it implies gender and appearance - looking sexy is either seen as positive or negative. Making it something of beauty, enjoyment and pleasure doesn't seem to be the media's agenda and in this media driven world, it is a pity.<br />Your journey is remarkable proof of what 'sex' can be - fulfilling.<br />DelFontehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00008482549648272206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-36916281669381684382013-05-01T23:49:35.748-04:002013-05-01T23:49:35.748-04:00I started a whole long comment but to what purpose...I started a whole long comment but to what purpose. The factions who promote the "sex is to be endured and not enjoyed" will not be reading here so it will just be preaching to the choir. <br /><br />To overcome the adversity you endured and still be able to enjoy sex, the way it was meant to be enjoyed, is a testament to your strength and the love of a good man. Hopefully, although your daughter did not heed your advice, she may have learned a lesson and will pass those teachings on to her child. Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-38307906690565409042013-05-01T21:59:32.798-04:002013-05-01T21:59:32.798-04:00The stigma around women you openly state their enj...The stigma around women you openly state their enjoyment of sex has changed over the years and yet we still have so far to go. It seems to me the movies geared toward the preteen and teenage children do not help at all. Calling peers sluts and whores for kissing boys, its just terrible, it does not set good examples.<br /><br />The thing you states that struck a chord with me was "the loving relationship". It does make a huge difference and people should be proud of being sexually connected to someone they love in that way.dancingbarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-44608244366808552382013-05-01T21:56:05.818-04:002013-05-01T21:56:05.818-04:00I'm so impressed that you could turn such a te...I'm so impressed that you could turn such a terrible negative into a positive. I think things ate changing, just slowly. With more mothers like you, it'll change faster.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04798113123590131798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-2490260471306445952013-05-01T20:49:27.211-04:002013-05-01T20:49:27.211-04:00As Tori said, congrats on your journey. And congra...As Tori said, congrats on your journey. And congrats for you giving your kids positive lessons about sex. I thought things were going to change for women back in the '60s with the so-called sexual revolution when the pill was supposed to liberate women and books likes Our Bodies, Ourselves were supposed to give them more positive images of their bodies. Alas, we still have a long way to go but I think it would help if mothers would give their daughters a more positive view on sex. And good luck on finding another job.<br /><br />FD Florida Domhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3260314684463137349.post-17471657983580613582013-05-01T17:46:45.252-04:002013-05-01T17:46:45.252-04:00I do think in many aspects society has come a long...I do think in many aspects society has come a long way in embracing sex, and seeing it as being something to be enjoyed, of course there are always going to be those that want to put it in the 'box' of being a necessity..a chore..but i think thats dying out.<br /><br />I think personally that considering the abuse you experienced, and that you can enjoy sex and embrace it is something wanderful when many dont.<br /><br />Its not for anyone to judge how you turned a negative into a positive...they have not travelled in your shoes.<br /><br />x<br /><br />torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.com